{"id":704,"date":"2015-05-12T12:16:16","date_gmt":"2015-05-12T12:16:16","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/howgreatthoupart\/?p=704"},"modified":"2015-05-12T12:16:16","modified_gmt":"2015-05-12T12:16:16","slug":"the-three-words-that-ended-my-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/howgreatthoupart\/2015\/05\/the-three-words-that-ended-my-marriage.html","title":{"rendered":"The Three Words That Ended My Marriage"},"content":{"rendered":"

Even now, long past the decision I made to end my marriage, there are three words that still make me cringe…<\/p>\n

“I don’t care.”<\/p>\n

I know they sound harmless enough. Some might say it’s a good thing to not care so much about everything and everyone. Yes, I get that. I did care too much about everything and everyone.<\/p>\n

As one of my friends once put it, “Colleen, most people care about rescuing their friends and their family. You care about everyone. You care about rescuing the world.”<\/p>\n

This is and was true. It is the trait of a worrier and an overly empathetic individual. <\/p>\n

I blame all the firefighters and cops in my family (I mean this as a compliment : )). After all, this is who I was raised around. People who stop on a crowded New York street to help a stranger, rescue a dog, you name it (and this would be in their off the clock hours). <\/p>\n

Oh, and let’s not forget the priest. My uncle was stopped in hospitals, restaurants, on the street. I have vivid memories of watching strangers approach him and ask for help or prayers and he was always there for them.<\/p>\n

So their you have it. It’s in my Irish, Catholic, New York City meets Virginia blood.<\/p>\n

What I will tell you is that I married my opposite. <\/p>\n

I actually loved every time he said the words, “Why do you care?” How liberating I thought. I have married someone who isn’t a neurotic worrier like me. I am saved!<\/p>\n

Little did I know that years later those three words were code for “There is nothing that is important to you that I will ever find remotely important to me.” AKA – “I don’t care.”<\/p>\n

These three little words carried the power to end my marriage.<\/p>\n

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