{"id":5434,"date":"2018-07-13T03:10:21","date_gmt":"2018-07-13T03:10:21","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/howgreatthoupart\/?p=5434"},"modified":"2018-07-13T03:10:21","modified_gmt":"2018-07-13T03:10:21","slug":"a-divorce-hiccup","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/howgreatthoupart\/2018\/07\/a-divorce-hiccup.html","title":{"rendered":"A Divorce Hiccup"},"content":{"rendered":"

Suffice it to say agreements don’t always get honored.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Of course, I knew this was coming, I just didn’t realize it would happen so quickly.<\/em><\/p>\n

I think this is a nice way of saying what many in divorce experience – ruthless divorces are often tag teamed by continuing antics.<\/p>\n

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It’s about control and money.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Needless to say, I have spent the past week in a whirlwind running interference.<\/p>\n

Primarily in the area of housing which may now be a crisis rather than the formerly agreed upon plan.<\/p>\n

Those in my world, supportive and caring and understanding as ever – have watched as my children and I deal with yet another unnecessary crisis.<\/p>\n

I’m not gonna lie.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It feels like a significant setback, like walking backward in time.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

Just when I was about to start writing about all the new, exciting and inspiring purpose that can evolve from unwanted change.<\/p>\n

And then tonight as I lay restless, I remembered a mantra I began repeating to myself when things were at their worst. When I felt beyond frustrated and hopeless that I was more controlled by a man in divorce than I had been in marriage. When all I was fighting for was a chance to be free and start over and the bare essentials to do so. Not savings or retirement or big numbers just the bare minimum.<\/p>\n

This mantra reinforces I was allowing the control (no matter how bad the situation was) I was making it even worse by being swept up in fear. Regardless of what he could do, my faith tells me only one person is truly in control.<\/p>\n

God is in control.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Therefore, my mantra…<\/p>\n

“Blank (insert name)” is not in control. God is in control.<\/strong><\/p>\n

As I said this tonight, fear and anxiety fell quiet.<\/em><\/p>\n

This is a temporary hiccup.<\/strong><\/p>\n

This was always God’s timing.<\/p>\n

Despite the mistakes, I made along the way, despite my now ex-husband’s prolonged resistance, despite my inability to free myself from a marriage, despite this huge, complex journey…<\/p>\n

God was taking me towards this moment.<\/strong><\/p>\n

This time of simultaneous closure and new beginnings.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

Which reinforces not just doors but windows are flying open.<\/strong><\/p>\n

And one person can try and close them…<\/p>\n

but what’s that quote??<\/p>\n

“If you want to make God laugh, tell him about your plans.”<\/em><\/p>\n

God is in control.<\/strong><\/p>\n

This interference, aka hiccup, is only going to reinforce this new beginning.<\/p>\n

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