{"id":5083,"date":"2018-03-23T19:52:48","date_gmt":"2018-03-23T19:52:48","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/howgreatthoupart\/?p=5083"},"modified":"2018-03-23T19:52:48","modified_gmt":"2018-03-23T19:52:48","slug":"top-10-things-divorce-taught-relationships","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/howgreatthoupart\/2018\/03\/top-10-things-divorce-taught-relationships.html","title":{"rendered":"The Top 10 Things Divorce Taught Me About Relationships"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>In the beginning, divorce teaches you about pain, loss, and tears.<\/p>\n<p><em>Eventually, it opens up to far greater lessons which in many ways bring a more mature view on\u00a0relationships.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/howgreatthoupart\/files\/2018\/03\/pexels-photo-629586-1.jpeg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-5089 alignleft\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/374\/2018\/03\/pexels-photo-629586-1-300x203.jpeg\" alt=\"pexels-photo-629586 (1)\" width=\"300\" height=\"203\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p><em>At the very least it offers a less idealist lens through which to peer at love.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>And provides the tough lessons of boundaries and self-protection which can be harnessed through great individual and relationship counseling.<\/p>\n<p>These are hard lessons learned but valuable nonetheless.<\/p>\n<p>They are also ones proffered once the indomitable\u00a0heart finally relents and listens to the ever more rational head.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>The Top 10 Things Divorce Taught Me About Relationships:<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>When someone doesn&#8217;t fight enough to be a part of two they deserve to be left a party of one<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>You can&#8217;t hold onto people who are already slipping through your fingers<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>The absence of a relationship far outweighs the existence of an unhealthy one<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Not all relationships survive and miraculously herein lies the potential of one to again thrive<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>There is nothing noble about enduring misery or abuse in the name of keeping it all together\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Love should be expressed not implied<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>The presence of &#8216;ego&#8217; means the absence of &#8216;relationship&#8217;\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>The idealist\u00a0believes in only one romantic love and for the lucky that can be true<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>The realist understands there is another romantic love waiting once you open yourself up to it<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Relationships are a &#8216;relay,&#8217; it&#8217;s in the first two syllables, a constant back and forth without which you will lose at love<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><em>There you have it the top ten things divorce taught me about relationships.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>Initially, these threaten to\u00a0break you.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>In the end, they make you.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>Follow me on Facebook @Colleen Orme National Columnist<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Photo Courtesy of Pexels<\/p>\n<p>on Twitter @colleenorme<br \/>\non Pinterest @colleensheehyorme<br \/>\nE-mail: Colleen.Sheehy.Orme@gmail.com<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In the beginning, divorce teaches you about pain, loss, and tears. 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