{"id":4512,"date":"2017-10-25T02:36:41","date_gmt":"2017-10-25T02:36:41","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/howgreatthoupart\/?p=4512"},"modified":"2017-10-25T02:36:41","modified_gmt":"2017-10-25T02:36:41","slug":"get-broken-fairy-tale","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/howgreatthoupart\/2017\/10\/get-broken-fairy-tale.html","title":{"rendered":"How Do You Get over the Broken Fairy Tale?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Just when your life is moving forward you (me) do something stupid like watch a cute young couple’s wedding video.<\/em><\/p>\n

Takes me back to the day I sat in my car only weeks into my divorce listening to my honeymoon song.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Really?<\/em><\/p>\n

Why didn’t I just change the radio station??!!<\/strong><\/p>\n

But noooooo, I just had to listen to it.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

\"pexels-photo-266958\"<\/a>I labored over every beat and every word.<\/em><\/p>\n

Mouthing UB40’s Red, Red Wine…<\/em><\/p>\n

I threw myself back onto the deck of that Norwegian Cruise line, steel band undulating and crowds waving from the New York Pier. I can still envision those first few moments.<\/p>\n

I sit scribbling postcards (I know doesn’t sound too honeymooney, but I am a writer after all) sipping a cocktail while the euphoria of newlywed ‘ness’ engulfs me.<\/p>\n

I revel in being called ‘Mrs.’ and I jot down the first note to my mom. <\/strong><\/p>\n

I might not remember my exact words but I came home to that postcard slapped upon the refrigerator door.<\/p>\n

When asking my mother why she chose to give it a place of such honor?<\/p>\n

Her reply…<\/p>\n

She said she could feel my joy when she read it.<\/em><\/p>\n

The card was short and sweet…<\/em><\/p>\n

“‘I love being married!’ I love you! Colleen'”<\/strong><\/p>\n

I am certain my mother read my emotion and told herself her baby would be okay.<\/em><\/p>\n

How glad I am she did not live to see the postcard I would write so many years later.<\/p>\n

It definitely wouldn’t grace our prized refrigerator door.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

The blackboard emeritus of family joy, announcements, and celebrations.<\/em><\/p>\n

Nope, this puppy might not even make it into the kitchen at all. Less it is a few late night whispers of exactly what went wrong between Scranton, Pennsylvania and said Norwegian Cruise Line.<\/p>\n

Sadly, (me) the grown bride ultimately knows.<\/strong><\/p>\n

But that young girl. Nope, she hadn’t a clue. Even if she wasn’t too busy singing to steel bands, sipping some sunny drink and pounding postcards. She wouldn’t have seen it coming, but…<\/strong><\/p>\n

Times change.<\/em><\/p>\n

Some for the better. Gone are the days this writer has to lick yucky stamps in favor of self-sticking ones. And some for the worse. I now sign Ms. instead of Mrs.<\/p>\n

For the most part, those of us who ultimately surrender (I use that word intentionally because no one chooses divorce it is a last resort) reconcile our new path with the unexpected joy and passion and purpose it presents.<\/p>\n

But that doesn’t mean we aren’t still human enough to get an occasional pang.<\/em><\/p>\n

Pang – a funny word for an indescribable and unexplainable feeling.<\/strong><\/p>\n

When I watch the promise of young love in this cute couple’s video it feels tangible enough to touch it and actually feel it once more.<\/em><\/p>\n

This thing made of fairy tales.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Another sweet and innocent partnership bound for a promising future. <\/em><\/p>\n

A part of me longs for a do-over.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

The good news?<\/strong><\/p>\n

The girl who sobbed in the car when she absolutely should never have listened to her honeymoon song is recovering.<\/em><\/p>\n

No, I don’t get a second chance at that first fairy tale.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

The one which makes you feel like you got it right from the beginning and snatched the elusive golden ring.<\/em><\/p>\n

The idealist and romantic in me didn’t marry a childhood love and turn it into a what was meant to be the<\/em> story – our<\/em> story. Believe me, how I wish I had.<\/p>\n

It’s hard for anyone to let go of their gown, pumpkin, and stroke of midnight.<\/em><\/p>\n

What they hoped and longed for.<\/strong><\/p>\n

But shoes AND fairy tales come in all shapes and sizes.<\/em><\/p>\n

Along with every Snow White, there is a Hansel and Gretel and for every Cinderella, there’s a Red Riding Hood.<\/strong><\/p>\n

We don’t all get the fairy tale of our choice.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

But rather the glass slipper which suits our lives best.<\/p>\n

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