{"id":4219,"date":"2017-07-26T16:58:01","date_gmt":"2017-07-26T16:58:01","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/howgreatthoupart\/?p=4219"},"modified":"2017-07-26T16:58:01","modified_gmt":"2017-07-26T16:58:01","slug":"kinda-guy-women-marry","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/howgreatthoupart\/2017\/07\/kinda-guy-women-marry.html","title":{"rendered":"The Kinda Guy Women Should Marry"},"content":{"rendered":"

I was chatting with a few of my old high school buddies recently and I complimented one of their wives. My friend responded to my comment with additional praise about his wife.<\/p>\n

“I love guys who love their wives,” I said.<\/em><\/p>\n

I feel proud in saying the guys I hung out with in high school are some of the best men I know.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"pexels-photo-519691\"<\/a>They truly love their wives.<\/em><\/p>\n

What does that really mean? They are grounded and confident enough to celebrate the women they married. They aren’t looking for something better around the corner.<\/p>\n

I think that is beyond sexy.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Something which will undoubtedly make them chuckle and a compliment they will likely say is thirty years too late. But, hey, as they say, better late than never.<\/p>\n

This is one of the reasons I have never understood affairs.<\/strong><\/p>\n

No, I am not being the moral majority. As I always say, relationships are not black and white and good people do make bad choices.<\/p>\n

I am just saying for me personally, I would never be attracted to someone who isn’t crazy about their wife.<\/em><\/p>\n

After all, that is what divorce is for.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Why would anyone want to be with someone who is looking for a substitute without first asking for the day off?<\/em><\/p>\n

For me, it’s a question of friendship and really great relationships include earth shattering buzz words like loyalty, honesty, devotion, and respect.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

I have spent my fair share of time lamenting I did not marry a man who did right by me in marriage or divorce.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

In my case, it did not take an affair to expose I was in a relationship devoid of those earth shattering relationship buzz words.<\/p>\n

The other day, I heard from one of those old high school buddies. It seems they\u00a0read something I posted and were reaching out to say they were worried about me and could they help in any way.<\/p>\n

I will never forget that moment – that phone call.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I fought back the tears and joked about what good men I grew up with and how I should have married in-state.<\/em><\/p>\n

I am spending less time of late pondering how I chose who I chose and got where I got.<\/p>\n

And more feeling incredibly blessed that many years ago I was surrounded by confident people who define friendship the way I do.<\/p>\n

Men who unlike the out of state guy I chose…<\/em><\/p>\n

found me too valuable to leave behind.<\/strong><\/p>\n

(Photo courtesy of Pexels)<\/p>\n

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