{"id":4079,"date":"2017-06-30T17:08:51","date_gmt":"2017-06-30T17:08:51","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/howgreatthoupart\/?p=4079"},"modified":"2017-06-30T17:08:51","modified_gmt":"2017-06-30T17:08:51","slug":"7-relationship-questions-investing-right-people","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/howgreatthoupart\/2017\/06\/7-relationship-questions-investing-right-people.html","title":{"rendered":"7 Relationship Questions – Are You Investing In the Right People?"},"content":{"rendered":"

All relationships are different. Some are intimate, others neighborly, community-based, or work-based. There are best friends and acquaintances, close relatives, and distant cousins.<\/p>\n

However, every single relationship has one thing in common.<\/em><\/p>\n

How they make us feel.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Whether we just meet an individual, barely know them or are extremely close – a feeling is emitted when in their presence.<\/em><\/p>\n

Relationships represent an emotional investment of love, the greatest commodity in life.<\/strong><\/p>\n

And every individual a spoke in our wheel of life.<\/em><\/p>\n

And often, we simply spin forward with all of them.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

But should we?<\/strong><\/p>\n

It is a tragedy to spend time with anyone who does not have the ability to truly love us. It impedes our light from shining bright enough to fulfill our own God-given purpose. Only those who love us for who we are can allow us the bandwidth\u00a0to live authentically rather than cast their shadow over us.<\/p>\n

How do we determine whether we have invested in the right people?<\/strong><\/p>\n

It’s easy to get caught up in comparisons, tit for tat and the perceived perfect relationship. But relationships\u00a0can’t be\u00a0measured despite their\u00a0differences in shapes and sizes.<\/p>\n

Instead, the true value\u00a0of\u00a0a relationship lies\u00a0in the\u00a0one thing they all have in common…<\/em><\/p>\n

Relationships are how people make us feel.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It’s not dissecting all the little issues and imperfections, it’s about quantifying how that all adds up when you are in that individual’s presence.<\/p>\n

This is the true test of a solid emotional investment.<\/em><\/p>\n

We need to ask these 5 questions to determine whether or not we are investing in the right people:<\/em><\/p>\n

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1. When I am with this person do I feel beautiful both inside and out?<\/strong><\/p>\n

2. \u00a0When I am<\/strong>\u00a0with this person do I feel important to them?<\/strong><\/p>\n

3. When I am with this person do I feel respected?<\/strong><\/p>\n

4. When I am with this person do I feel good about who I am?<\/strong><\/p>\n

5. When I am with this person do I feel heard?<\/strong><\/p>\n

6. When\u00a0I am<\/strong>\u00a0with this person do I feel understood?<\/strong><\/p>\n

7. When I am with this person do I feel loved?<\/strong><\/p>\n

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If we answer no to any of these questions, this person is not a good emotional investment.<\/em><\/p>\n

It is time to cut the losses.<\/p>\n

It is a relationship with an individual whose ego is so large it insists on casting a shadow on love.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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