{"id":3844,"date":"2017-07-24T17:30:09","date_gmt":"2017-07-24T17:30:09","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/howgreatthoupart\/?p=3844"},"modified":"2017-07-24T17:30:09","modified_gmt":"2017-07-24T17:30:09","slug":"can-use-bad-discover-good-life","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/howgreatthoupart\/2017\/07\/can-use-bad-discover-good-life.html","title":{"rendered":"How We Can Use the Bad to Discover the Good in Life?"},"content":{"rendered":"

I’ve had a few people ask me if writing about divorce keeps me stuck.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It’s a really good question.<\/em><\/p>\n

On the contrary, writing about divorce is the one place I feel in control in an out of control divorce. It is cathartic and empowering to open my heart about a topic, many fear to talk about while still others worry may happen to them.<\/p>\n

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When I first began writing about divorce I never imagined how long I would fight to be free.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I naively believed things would be finalized within a year or slightly over that.<\/p>\n

I never imagined this complicated, frustrating, stressful, and painful prolonged journey.<\/em><\/p>\n

Of course, faith tells me this is a part of my purpose.<\/em><\/p>\n

The adversity I am supposed to endure and shape into something far more positive.<\/strong><\/p>\n

When I was twelve and scribbling in my Mickey Mouse diary my own musings on life, people, and love I couldn’t have known my future.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

What I did comprehend is I was driven to communicate. That when I looked out into the world, even then I saw a way to connect the dots of love. <\/strong><\/p>\n

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I possessed an ability to see through life.<\/p>\n

A bit of an irony – thoughts too old for my years nestled within a Disney mouse.<\/strong><\/p>\n

But we are who we are from the very beginning.<\/em><\/p>\n

While others excelled in school across the board – I advanced in only one subject. The little girl who couldn’t understand a math problem or figure out a science experiment was whisked out of class once a week for a program called\u00a0Great Books<\/em>. I would covet receiving those pages and voraciously absorb them bringing me to a reading level three years or more beyond my age.<\/p>\n

It never stopped.<\/strong><\/p>\n

My scribbling that is. My love of books and mags. The thoughts I felt compelled to get out.<\/em><\/p>\n

No, writing about divorce doesn’t keep me stuck.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

It reinforces a purpose I felt from a young age. The internal instincts each of us has yet are gifted with in different ways.<\/p>\n

It is still me writing about love, people, and life.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It is still me digging deep enough to cry at times and laugh at others.<\/em><\/p>\n

And I know…<\/p>\n

When I receive an email from a friend asking for privacy.<\/em><\/p>\n

A reader telling me they now do not feel quite so alone.<\/em><\/p>\n

A Facebook message at 2:00 a.m. from the divorcing and sleep deprived.<\/em><\/p>\n

A happily married person telling me they also experienced tough times or now know what someone they love is feeling.<\/em><\/p>\n

I know I am not stuck.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Life is both beautiful and ugly. It is both easy and hard. It is both complicated and simple.<\/em><\/p>\n

We can’t only write about the pretty part of life.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Especially when it is ‘LOVE’ – beautiful, gorgeous, breathtaking ‘LOVE’ which has the propensity to expose the ugly in all of us.<\/em><\/p>\n

Nothing has changed.<\/em><\/p>\n

I’m just communicating with a few more people than Mickey these days.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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(Photo courtesy of Pexels)<\/p>\n

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