{"id":3579,"date":"2017-01-26T04:27:13","date_gmt":"2017-01-26T04:27:13","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/howgreatthoupart\/?p=3579"},"modified":"2017-01-27T18:31:59","modified_gmt":"2017-01-27T18:31:59","slug":"could-i-actually-be-remarrying","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/howgreatthoupart\/2017\/01\/could-i-actually-be-remarrying.html","title":{"rendered":"Could I Actually Be Remarrying?"},"content":{"rendered":"

I dabble in made up words, my very own divorce vocabulary. \u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Thus, I now experience what I refer to as Divorcemare’s.’\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

The scary type of boogeyman dreams which inhabit the sleeping (or should I say the\u00a0restless) mind of a divorcee in waiting.<\/em><\/p>\n

Divorce is a breeding ground for things that go bump in the night. A stressed and frightened victim the perfect target. My friends and I have had a few chuckles over these amped up night movies. At least the ones worth repeating.<\/p>\n

Yet, nothing could have prepared me for the mother of all ‘Divorcemare’s!’\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

I am still grappling to process it so I will share.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

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I am wedding dress shopping with my soon to be ex-husband but in my ‘Mare’ we are ACTUALLY divorced. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Yes, surprisingly this one started out as a glorious dream before it took a hard right. But I digress. Back to the ‘Mare.’ I suddenly realize we are shopping for my SECOND wedding gown! And it’s going quite well. We agree upon a lovely blue bridesmaid-ish looking gown. After all, we already dragged that white puppy down the aisle the first go around.<\/p>\n

We actually go so far as to pay for it. That’s when it gets dicey. My soon to be ‘ex’ walks one way in the mall and I go in the opposite direction. That’s when I spy my life long buddy who I will call “Maura” because I always say how much she resembles Maura Tierney. “Maura” is in full on head shake, side to side and back again. It seems she is signaling this is not such a good idea. But the dress is SO pretty AND blue will be such a stunner! So unexpected!<\/p>\n

No matter! “Maura’s” persistent non-verbal ‘what are you thinking…RUN’ warning – \u00a0wakes me up. LITERALLY!<\/strong><\/p>\n

Well, I say it wakes me up but I still feel trapped in the ‘Mare.” BECAUSE…WHO in the process of a three and a half year divorce dreams about re-marrying the person they can’t unmarry????<\/em><\/p>\n

ME! I have that dream! Because nothing in my life is simple anymore!<\/strong><\/p>\n

Okay, let me be a little bit less dramatic and reach for a little bit of calm, which is so readily available these days.<\/em><\/p>\n

This isn’t a\u00a0reality for Pete’s sake, it’s just a tiny dream puzzle I have to decipher. It must be that I am beginning to think of dating, after all, I should actually be divorced soon enough to do so. I don’t really want to re-marry the man I am still not unmarried from. I am just terrified I will attract myself to his twin, another version of him. Right????<\/p>\n

Or, it could be that I can’t actually get out of this marriage and that’s the real symbolism. One never-ending marital fairy tale??!! Which leads to dream trauma.<\/p>\n

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That’s my verdict.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Of course, I could reference the Dreamology book my girlfriend “Turtle” (she will get her alias) gave me one year.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

Nah! This runaway ‘Divorcemare’ bride is afraid to dig any deeper!<\/p>\n

I need my beauty rest.<\/p>\n

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(Photo courtesy of Pexels)<\/p>\n

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