{"id":279,"date":"2014-12-17T04:18:58","date_gmt":"2014-12-17T04:18:58","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/howgreatthoupart\/?p=279"},"modified":"2023-11-25T17:58:46","modified_gmt":"2023-11-25T17:58:46","slug":"divorced-and-working-on-my-sexy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/howgreatthoupart\/2014\/12\/divorced-and-working-on-my-sexy.html","title":{"rendered":"Divorced and Working on My Sexy"},"content":{"rendered":"

My friend Trixie and I are talking about fun.<\/p>\n

\u201cPeople want to be around fun,\u201d says Trixie.<\/p>\n

\u201cI used to be fun,\u201d I say.<\/p>\n

Scratch that. I was a one woman stand-up, quick witted, last girl to leave the party kinda fun.<\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019m not really feeling the fun so much anymore Trixie,\u201d I say.<\/p>\n

\u201cYou gotta be fun,\u201d she says. \u201cPeople wanna get away from their own problems for a while. People love fun.\u201d<\/p>\n

I used to joke with my husband that I never feared the blonde bombshell. On the contrary, I feared the funny girl, holding a Stella while everyone roared with laughter. My husband was not attracted to the sultry type. He was attracted to the fun, party girl. We matched quite well that way.<\/p>\n

Nah, sadly, I never feared sexy. I\u2019m quite aware of what that says about me. Really, I would love to be the sexy girl. I would just need to talk a lot softer and a lot less. Something that is very hard for me.<\/p>\n

So when divorce stalked my fun, let\u2019s just say it was a little overly obvious that I lost my mojo.<\/p>\n

What can I say?<\/p>\n

It\u2019s just not all about the \u2018party\u2019 for me anymore.<\/p>\n

No, it\u2019s not about growing up. It\u2019s just my current ebb and flow. I gotta wade through the \u2018not so fun\u2019 to be \u2018fun\u2019 again.<\/p>\n

I am also varying my definition of fun.<\/p>\n

I want to look below the surface, peek under the lid and dig a little deeper in between the Stella\u2019s and the laughter. Who knows, maybe slowing down between sips, might bring a softer, sexier me (allow me my potential silver lining).<\/p>\n

So divorce has slowed my fun.<\/p>\n

When I lost both of my parents in my twenties I was told I should move on within a few months. It was well-meaning advice doled out by only a few. The naive wisdom of those who had yet to lose one parent let alone two.<\/p>\n

More than 50% of the population gets divorced.<\/p>\n

Fortunately, most of the people I know won\u2019t experience this utter devastation. Here, in the middle of suburbia, I don\u2019t meet the majority of that 50%.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not fun. And I am so okay with that…for now.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m working on my \u2018sexy.’\"IMG954106-1\"<\/a><\/p>\n

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