{"id":2685,"date":"2016-09-15T15:51:03","date_gmt":"2016-09-15T15:51:03","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/howgreatthoupart\/?p=2685"},"modified":"2016-09-15T15:54:10","modified_gmt":"2016-09-15T15:54:10","slug":"divorce-barbie-demands-new-outfit","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/howgreatthoupart\/2016\/09\/divorce-barbie-demands-new-outfit.html","title":{"rendered":"Divorce Barbie Demands a New Outfit"},"content":{"rendered":"

I shift through hangers in my closet.
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\nI used to have one size clothing. My weight did not fluctuate. Honestly, neither did my mood. <\/p>\n

I started gaining weight when I began losing myself.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Now that’s a powerful sentence. Let me add to that. I didn’t initially gain the pounds. The first five years of marital problems I was definitely internally unhappy but externally it was invisible.
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The weight came when I stayed unhappy for too long.<\/strong><\/p>\n

So now I have two size clothing.<\/p>\n

I have my pre-divorce clothing which I refer to as my Barbie clothes.<\/p>\n

And my ‘this divorce has taken entirely too long’ plus size Barbie clothing.<\/p>\n

I surprise myself as I swipe at my plus size Barbie clothes with a vengeance. I toss them into a goodwill trash bag. <\/p>\n

I am committed. I am invested. <\/em><\/p>\n

I am finally ready to leave all of the plus size pain behind me.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It may not sound like a huge emotional break-through but it is. I have feared discarding these clothes. What if I don’t lose the weight? What if I can’t afford to replace them? What if, what if.<\/p>\n

The truth is…the ‘what if’s’ were simply fear. The fear that I was really emotionally strong enough again to regain my life.<\/p>\n

I am.<\/p>\n

I will no longer be a walking billboard for the emotional gain of sadness. I will not let divorce alter me. At least not for the worst.<\/p>\n

There are definite stages in divorce. We meet them as we become ready.
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Don’t let your divorce closet stay crowded with things that demand to be lost. Whether it be pounds, bitterness, or sadness gained. <\/p>\n

We must choose to lose how we allowed another individual to change us.<\/p>\n

I am buying new outfits. Barbie is ready to dress up again.<\/p>\n

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