{"id":234,"date":"2014-11-21T19:05:51","date_gmt":"2014-11-21T19:05:51","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/howgreatthoupart\/?p=234"},"modified":"2014-11-21T19:05:51","modified_gmt":"2014-11-21T19:05:51","slug":"what-advice-would-your-mother-give-you-in-divorce","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/howgreatthoupart\/2014\/11\/what-advice-would-your-mother-give-you-in-divorce.html","title":{"rendered":"What Advice Would Your Mother Give You in Divorce?"},"content":{"rendered":"

We are laughing with my sister who recently had knee surgery. It is my sister, my niece and me.<\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019m weepy,\u201d she says.<\/p>\n

\u201cWeepy, who says that?\u201d laughs her daughter.<\/p>\n

I know who says that! It was our mother.<\/p>\n

I miss my mom. I really miss my mom through the \u2018weepier\u2019 days of divorce. And I especially miss my mom when my sister speaks her familiar language.<\/p>\n

I often wonder and wish for the advice my mom would give me in the midst of divorcemania. <\/p>\n

I am reminded of a conversation with my friend, \u201cStella.\u201d<\/p>\n

We are commiserating about divorce. It is a conversation of waxing and waining about our strength and weakness at a time that we need only the prior.<\/p>\n

\u201cMy mom says that I need to put it in God\u2019s Hands,\u201d says Stella. \u201cI tell my mom, Really? Don\u2019t you think his hands are getting pretty full?\u201d<\/p>\n

For a brief moment I am so envious of Stella. I wish I still had my mom to turn to. I want advice. I want comfort. I want my mom.<\/p>\n

I want to know the stellar (sorry had to put in the pun) words my mother would offer me at this time so that I can cope.<\/p>\n

We finish our conversation and I think back to what Stella\u2019s mom had said to her. A smile comes across my face.<\/p>\n

The truth is my mother seldom offered concrete advice in the crisis of life. She didn\u2019t get specific on what she thought I should do. She would only say one thing to me. <\/p>\n

\u201cColleen, put it in the hands of The Lord.\u201d<\/p>\n

As a young girl, I always wanted more. I wanted a step by step solution.<\/p>\n

Stella\u2019s mother reminded me that I don\u2019t have to wonder what my mom would tell me to do. She left me with the unifying simplicity and magnitude of prayer.<\/p>\n

She left me with concrete advice.<\/p>\n

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