{"id":1956,"date":"2016-05-30T01:13:49","date_gmt":"2016-05-30T01:13:49","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/howgreatthoupart\/?p=1956"},"modified":"2016-05-30T04:58:15","modified_gmt":"2016-05-30T04:58:15","slug":"the-new-old-me","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/howgreatthoupart\/2016\/05\/the-new-old-me.html","title":{"rendered":"The New ‘Old’ Me"},"content":{"rendered":"

Sometimes lately, I sit next to people, my people, the ones that used to know me. The ones I feel most comfortable around.<\/p>\n

Only there is an unspoken vibe. <\/p>\n

They stayed with me through the worst of it, they ushered me along and listened (Boy did they listen so much longer than they should have), <\/em>then they saw me smile again. They were happy to see that smile and honestly so was I. <\/p>\n

It was SO<\/strong> familiar. <\/p>\n

It was as familiar as the unfamiliar ‘unhappy’<\/em> had become.<\/p>\n

I reveled in it. The reemergence of the new ‘old’ me.<\/p>\n

Only it didn’t take long before I realized there would be a period of adjustment for me and for them.<\/p>\n

I knew this truth because I had taken this ride with one of my best friends from high school following her divorce. I was so happy when she divorced. I was so ready to greet the new ‘old’ her. It was a surprise to realize that wouldn’t happen right away. <\/p>\n

Yes, down deep she was still the same friend, but she had evolved in her journey. She wasn’t quite who she had been and nor, was she someone else.
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I had a decision to make.<\/p>\n

Did I want to allow her the changes in her life and keep her in mine? Or did I want to continue to need her to fit into my life in the same way that she used to?<\/p>\n

I won’t lie. At first, I wanted the old fit. It was the most comfortable.<\/p>\n

People don’t like change and I am no exception.<\/p>\n

And then, I began to realize that although she wasn’t exactly the same friend I had spent so many wonderful times with – she was nonetheless my friend. <\/p>\n

She was the new ‘old’ her. I still wasn’t completely comfortable with the changes, but I wasn’t comfortable without her. With time and with healing, she eventually became the girl she had always been.<\/p>\n

I know there is an unspoken vibe for some that know me.<\/p>\n

I know that at this moment there is a new ‘old’ me.<\/p>\n

I also know that soon, with just a little more time and healing – there will no longer be new and old – I will just be me.<\/p>\n

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