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I climb into bed and my head finds\u00a0the pillow. This evening ritual means nothing to this divorce induced insomniac.<\/em><\/p>\n

My chocolate lab Hazel circles next to me and finally flops down. She rests so peacefully I can hear her snuggled snores.<\/p>\n

I can’t get a song out of my head. It is an old song which I haven’t heard in many years which makes me wonder where along my day I picked it up.<\/p>\n

I quietly sing the words “I’m the Happiest Girl In the Whole USA.”<\/strong><\/p>\n

Tears wet the pillow.<\/p>\n

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I think of my mother and how she always said, “Colleen has Joie de Vivre.”<\/em><\/p>\n

I have traded in that trademark joy for emotional purgatory. <\/strong><\/p>\n

A place of transitional suffering.<\/em><\/p>\n

Initially, I was up for the task at hand. I believed I would inhabit this place of pain for maybe a year. Then I would happily shift from purgatory into purging. I would expel and cleanse the remnants of my relationship.<\/p>\n

And it seems I have for the most part. The problem is divorce is a team sport so both people need to be willing to transition out of the marital purgatory together. Well, at least in the signing of the papers part.<\/p>\n

The other day I visited my attorney’s office.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

As we left his office, I turned and said, “I’m kinda like your penance, aren’t I?”<\/em><\/p>\n

He laughed and said, “Sort of.”\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

My poor attorney didn’t know what he was getting himself into when this Catholic girl showed up at his door.<\/em><\/p>\n

Fortunately, my Joie de Vivre appears to be returning sans the occasional divorce hiccup and I am transitioning from purgatory into purging.<\/p>\n

Good news for my attorney. After all, he’s had to atone long enough for this Catholic girl’s sins.<\/p>\n

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