{"id":135,"date":"2014-09-25T15:37:58","date_gmt":"2014-09-25T15:37:58","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/howgreatthoupart\/?p=135"},"modified":"2014-09-25T15:37:58","modified_gmt":"2014-09-25T15:37:58","slug":"why-it-is-never-easy-to-end-a-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/howgreatthoupart\/2014\/09\/why-it-is-never-easy-to-end-a-marriage.html","title":{"rendered":"Why It Is Never Easy to End a Marriage"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>I am chatting with someone. In a well-intentioned attempt to make me feel better, they explain that divorce is really not such a big deal. On the contrary, they know people who are now happier since they have divorced.<\/p>\n<p>This is absolutely true. It is why I have ultimately surrendered to this path.<\/p>\n<p>However, to end a marriage and get a divorce is a big deal.<\/p>\n<p>It is never easy to let go of our dreams.<\/p>\n<p>It is never easy to lose one that we love.<\/p>\n<p>It is never easy to fight so hard to save something that you lose most of yourself.<\/p>\n<p>It is never easy to forgive yourself for choices that leave your children responsible for them.<\/p>\n<p>It is never easy to let go of a love that gifted you the three greatest loves of your life.<\/p>\n<p>It is never easy to watch another\u2019s love story and wonder why yours was a short story rather than a novel.<\/p>\n<p>It is never easy to see a family together and realize you are no longer like other families.<\/p>\n<p>It is never easy to realize that either you repeat a part of your past or you were one of the first in your family to take this path.<\/p>\n<p>It is never easy to believe you create your own fairy tale only to remember that both good and bad exist in even the best fairy tales.<\/p>\n<p>It is never easy to fail at anything in life, let alone what is most precious to us.<\/p>\n<p>It is never easy to discover that pain and joy are the necessary roommates of the heart.<\/p>\n<p>It is never easy to end a marriage.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&nbsp; I am chatting with someone. 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