{"id":1184,"date":"2015-10-30T14:35:08","date_gmt":"2015-10-30T14:35:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/howgreatthoupart\/?p=1184"},"modified":"2015-10-30T14:35:08","modified_gmt":"2015-10-30T14:35:08","slug":"how-would-you-answer-this-question","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/howgreatthoupart\/2015\/10\/how-would-you-answer-this-question.html","title":{"rendered":"How Would You Answer This Question?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Would you stand idly by while a grown man bullied a woman and children?<\/p>\n

I am hoping the answer is ‘no.’ <\/p>\n

TELL ME WHY THEN, IS IT ACCEPTABLE IN DIVORCE?<\/p>\n

The courts can’t help because their focus is custody and finances
\nThe family of the person being bullied can’t help because the bully doesn’t care what they think
\nThe family of the bully doesn’t help because there’s a reason the bully is a bully
\nThe extended family of the bully doesn’t help because of the line drawn in the sand by the bully’s family.
\nThe friends of the bully don’t help because it’s a guy code where they just don’t get involved<\/p>\n

While all these grown adults are looking the other way the children are living it.<\/p>\n

THAT BEARS REPEATING<\/p>\n

While all these grown adults are looking the other way the children are living it.<\/p>\n

And when is the bully the most powerful? When he’s on the playground alone with his target.<\/p>\n

Divorce is not the true problem for children. The problem is an adult who is not mature enough, selfless enough and responsible enough to put their children first and who finds satisfaction in bullying. The even bigger problem? Grown adults stand idly by and watch the children suffer while their parent bullies them in divorce.<\/p>\n

Please share this column. Please follow me on Facebook and Twitter both @Colleen Orme and raise awareness for adult marital bullying. Please e-mail me your story colleen.sheehy.orme@gmail.com #stopmaritalbullying<\/p>\n

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