{"id":1023,"date":"2015-09-11T15:39:08","date_gmt":"2015-09-11T15:39:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/howgreatthoupart\/?p=1023"},"modified":"2015-09-11T15:52:57","modified_gmt":"2015-09-11T15:52:57","slug":"the-weak-moments-of-divorce","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/howgreatthoupart\/2015\/09\/the-weak-moments-of-divorce.html","title":{"rendered":"The Weak Moments of Divorce"},"content":{"rendered":"

I sit in my car at the stoplight. It has been a good day. A rebuilding kinda day where I feel I am making progress these past months and moving foward – essentially moving into the area of divorce where there are more good days than bad. More good moments than bad moments.<\/p>\n

I flip to a new radio station.<\/p>\n

I hear a song from 1988. Songs are like smells – even more than any other senses they have the ability to catapult us back to a moment in time. It’s a fascinating phenomenon to me because neither sight nor touch has that ability to make a moment seem real again.<\/p>\n

Now I know that I should change the station. I mean seriously all I can think to myself is, ‘Are you really going to listen to this song??’<\/p>\n

Only I do. I can’t help myself.<\/p>\n

“Red, red wine…” and I am transported back to the Song of Norway, a Norwegian Cruiseliner docked in New York City. It is the first day of our honeymoon. A steel band plays on the deck, while we sip cocktails and wave goodbye to crowds on the dock. I sit with a few postcards that I have purchased and write one to my mother as we pull away from the harbor towards Bermuda.<\/p>\n

It is a short scribble, “I LOVE being married! I love you, Colleen.”<\/p>\n

It is one of the definable moments of our honeymoon set to the music of a UB40 song originally written by Neil Diamond.<\/p>\n

So of course, I am now in my car having a very different kind of ‘moment.’ It is the opposite of the joy filled 1988 moment where a smile crossed my face and love lived in my heart. It is a waterfall ‘moment.’ The kind where tears cross down my face and love leaves my heart.<\/p>\n

I remember returning from our honeymoon and seeing that silly pig postcard adorning my mom’s refrigerator.<\/p>\n

“Why did you hang that up?” I ask my mom.<\/p>\n

“I love what you wrote on that card,” she replies. And there it stayed for years.<\/p>\n

I never really focused on the words to this Neil Diamond song before. Over the years, it just made me happy and it was more the beat and vibe of a steel band that I remembered. Only now it is hard to not feel a sting to the words – to realize the sorrow they spoke of and that all these years later I would sadly live.<\/p>\n

Red Red Wine
\nSong by Neil Diamond<\/p>\n

Red, red wine
\nGo to my head
\nMake me forget that I
\nStill need her so<\/p>\n

Red, red wine
\nIt’s up to you
\nAll I can do, I’ve done
\nBut memories won’t go
\nNo, memories won’t go<\/p>\n

I’d have sworn that with time
\nThoughts of you would leave my head
\nI was wrong, and I find
\nJust one thing makes me forget<\/p>\n

Red, red wine
\nStay close to me
\nDon’t let me be alone
\nIt’s tearing apart
\nMy blue, blue heart<\/p>\n

I’d have sworn that with time
\nThoughts of you would leave my head
\nI was wrong, and I find
\nJust one thing makes me forget<\/p>\n

Red, red wine
\nStay close to me
\nDon’t let me be alone
\nIt’s tearing apart
\nMy blue, blue heart
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