People ask me why I write about divorce. Their reactions always vary. -They either thank me -Are shocked I am willing to put it all out there -Tell me that they admire that I do -Or admit that though they may not be my demographic and are married, they still enjoy reading this column. I…

It’s not complex arthrometric, positive emotions add to our lives while negative emotions subtract from them. When it’s stated this simply, it’s amazing that anyone loses sight of this uncomplicated metric. But people do stay in bad relationships and jobs they hate. They remain, volunteers or caregivers even long after they have burned out and…

It’s a challenge to have the proper level of respect in a relationship. Two different individuals from separate backgrounds and families are blending a lifetime of unique history. Therefore, it’s human nature to want to duplicate our own individual worlds. However, relationships demand that we adjust two worlds and combine them into a best possible…

It’s somewhat of a given that most people do not have the ability to see their own faults. This, of course, makes relationships and conflict resolution even more difficult. Let’s call this ‘the cake.’ What complicates this even further is that most relationships lack truly great communication. Let’s call this the ‘icing on the cake.’…

I am in the local coffee shop. It is what my friends call my real office. I run into two of my favorite people in the world. “How are you?” I ask. My one friend, who I will name “Sunshine” (an alias as I always do) responds, “I am tired.” “Sunshine” is with our friend…

I sit with my marriage counselor. I like to call him “Dr. Phil” because he has that same direct and likable quality. “They used to call me ‘The Mayor of Great Falls,” I say. “I miss that. I enjoyed that big world. I took pride in being there for people. In solving problems and leading…

Things are getting better. I no longer remember what it is like to feel the pain of being attached to two. Instead, I am remembering the joy of being just one. No, it is not as contradictory as it sounds. I am not encouraging a selfishness or a lack of longing to one day know…

There are great benefits to being happy. It allows one to fully engage in the present and contribute well to the world. Happiness casts a living shield and makes it difficult for the negative aspects of life to stick. It is a given that life will present unhappiness. It cannot be avoided. However, the following…

The hard times in life demand both inspiration and spirituality. It is what anchors and sustains people through adversity. It provides the hope and the promise to soldier on from the valley to the peak as life often necessitates. The movie “The Secrets of the Keys,” will not disappoint anyone craving motivation to conquer hardship…

I walk through the grocery store. I grab a few things and I make my way to the express lane. My friend “Munkee” stands in line before me. “So, how are things going for you Colleen?” he asks. “You know what?” I say. “I’m good. Talking less and smiling more!” “Sounds like a bumper sticker,”…

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