Okay, so no one chooses divorce.  It chooses you. It is a last resort. An ending to a story you wish was otherwise written. And you hold onto that ending for a long time. No one wants to leave a movie feeling like they could have written it better.  It is, after all, so much…

There is nothing more exciting than a New Year which promises a fresh start. A time to refresh our hopes, our dreams, and our energy.  Most importantly, it is a time which commands that we center our spirit. And remind ourselves of our purpose in life and what God has whispered in our hearts. It…

In many ways, we can learn from our youngest selves. Toddlers live in real time.  There is zero pretense, no games and no holding back. Toddlers demand to be heard and because of this we listen.  Is it possible we complicate things as time moves forward and our egos develop and dig in? Toddlers are…

I admit it. I stayed in an unhappy marriage for too long. Initially, I did this for all the right reasons or what I call my favorite reason…LOVE. But ultimately even I was smart enough to realize any type of unhealthy relationship cannot be defined as love. That’s when the secondary reason for staying hindered…

So you have a broken heart? That’s the bad news… The good news? You don’t have to talk yourself into getting over this person. You really can get ahead of the ‘dread’ ED ex in the New Year! I know what you’re thinking! It’s so much easier to hate the cheater or even better the…

One day my marriage counselor said, “Colleen, you have the ability to see your own faults and this is unusual. The average person, not even a difficult personality, does not necessarily have the ability to see their own faults.” I realized why he was telling me this. I couldn’t reach my husband no matter how…

It’s hard to admit shortcomings in any aspect of our lives. It’s even more challenging to face the fault in our relationships. It signifies the frightening possibility of surrendering to the potential demise of the complex relationships that sustain us when they do not drain us. There are a variety of ways to kick a…

As much as we talk about putting down our cell phones we seldom do. Technology has become a widely acceptable addiction.  Sexting aside, it has put a cramp in relationship intimacy. One that extends far beyond romantic liaisons and into our basic life relationships. The ones that establish the foundation of who we are, our…

Not that long ago, I chat with my sister-in-law. To say my sister-in-law is a wonderful person would be an understatement. She’s all things good in this world. So I will give her the moniker of “Mary Tyler Moore.” She’s all sunshine and blue skies. “MTM” and I have a fair amount of similarities. I…

I shift through hangers in my closet. I used to have one size clothing. My weight did not fluctuate. Honestly, neither did my mood. I started gaining weight when I began losing myself. Now that’s a powerful sentence. Let me add to that. I didn’t initially gain the pounds. The first five years of marital…

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