It’s been said there are more bad counselors than good ones.  How do you find a solid one? Do the necessary prerequisite homework – research them and ask others for referrals. Ask yourself some of the following questions? Are my spouse and I experiencing simple communication issues? If so, a good LCSW (Licensed Clinical Social…

Take a trip and people will ask how it was? Choose a different profession and they will want to know if you love it. Date some new hottie and they will ask if you are happy. Get a divorce? Oddly, no one seems to ask… Are you glad you did it? Are you happier? Would you…

A friend from high school reached out to me. She wanted to let me know that one of my columns so resonated with her that she shared it on Facebook. Having grown up together in Washington, D.C. I assumed it was the portion of the column where I spoke of getting involved and a larger…

It’s hard to admit shortcomings in any aspect of our lives. It’s even more challenging to face the fault in our relationships. It signifies the frightening possibility of surrendering to the potential demise of the complex relationships that sustain us when they do not drain us. There are a variety of ways to kick a…

It is not uncommon for individuals to choose to remain in an unhappy marriage. Of course, there are those who do so consciously and will admit it. At the very least, to themselves. And then there are others, who are somewhat conscious but choose denial. Those individuals recognize their unhappiness but convince themselves and others…

I pull the dresser drawer and dump the contents onto the floor. I pull another drawer and dump and another and another. I stare at the pile of clothing and assorted things. I am on the umpteenth purge of my old life. Only I have forgotten what this old dresser holds. It is a gorgeous…

I am a bit nervous this morning. I am on the way to meet a friend. We have a few too many, obvious parallels and instead of feeling this is helpful, it makes me sad. I never, ever, want to see a heart hurt again. Let alone one that would never have the ability to…

It’s late and my phone lights up with a text. It’s a friend of mine who may or may not have had a fight with her wedding dress. It seems the dress lost. It’s now in a dump somewhere. And seed pearls now scattered, adorn the floor of her laundry room. This is divorce. The…

I often know what I am going to write my column about on a particular day, but then something shifts and changes my mind. I drive down the road with the radio blaring. The words from the song catch me. I have never heard it before, but it does what truly great songs and writing…

My friend “Crystal” calls me. She tells me she has just read one of my recent columns, “The Weak Moments of Divorce” – aka the column where I wrote about listening to our honeymoon song, “Red, Red Wine” on the radio. “Crystal” gets it. She’s been divorced. She understands the yin and the yang. The…

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