As parents, we spend a fair amount of time agonizing over our mistakes. Certainly, we would have done many things differently. If only we hadn’t been grown children ourselves when we made our relationship choices and eventually married. Most of us had no idea our marriages would end. If we had, we wouldn’t have walked…

Love is confusing. Logic might say it’s because it involves not just matters of the heart but two different people. And that would be true. But what makes it even more baffling is somehow we mistakenly think we can do the work of two people. This bears repeating…we believe we can do the work of…

Most people do not believe their spouse is capable of hiding money. Yet, divorce makes it abundantly clear they are not only capable of it but of other unexpected behavior. It’s not possible to control another person’s actions but it is possible to control your own. The problem? When a marriage begins to deteriorate one…

It’s no secret some men have historically gone to great lengths to leave their wives with either little to no money. It happens to strong and capable women who are guilty of just one thing – not believing the person they married would ever be capable of it. You could say these women made themselves…

It’s no secret I stayed way too long in a war-torn relationship. It’s easy to do. I was consumed by the day to day operations of saving my marital world. I actually ended up missing the signs it had changed from a rescue to a search and recovery mission.  I am not alone. Everyday people who…

A few months ago I returned. The person once known as Colleen Sheehy peeked through after what seemed like an eternal hiatus. I think I now understand the artist formerly known as Prince or Puff Daddy turned P.Diddy and so on. These men simply put titles on their life transitions or should I say personal…

People seem to believe there are sides in a divorce. In actuality, there are not. I know what you’re thinking, bear with me. First, let me preface this by saying no mature, confident adult expects another human being to take sides. What they do expect is sincere friendship.  And friends who see the situation accurately…

Just when your life is moving forward you (me) do something stupid like watch a cute young couple’s wedding video. Takes me back to the day I sat in my car only weeks into my divorce listening to my honeymoon song. Really? Why didn’t I just change the radio station??!! But noooooo, I just had…

I ran into a friend who recently divorced. The smile on her face – well, it was the stuff dental commercials are made of – bright and blinding. She was happy. In fact, happier than I had seen her in years. Divorce is harsh. It is filled with heartache, worry, stress and unbearable loss. Anyone…

I once heard the average unhappily married person considers leaving at least ten times before they actually do. Personally, I think the number is probably much higher. Marriage is a huge commitment which most people take very seriously. Hence, why people fail to leave when they first instinctually feel the relationship cannot be repaired. Of…

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