My kids always roll their eyes when I tell them we are going to write down our goals. I know, most people believe goals are for adults. Only, I always loved to see my children write down their hopes and their dreams. A little peek inside exactly who they are and are meant to be.…

In many ways, we can learn from our youngest selves. Toddlers live in real time.  There is zero pretense, no games and no holding back. Toddlers demand to be heard and because of this we listen.  Is it possible we complicate things as time moves forward and our egos develop and dig in? Toddlers are…

Tonight my youngest son was extremely tired and fell asleep at 6:30 p.m. I stayed up later than usual working on my computer. At around midnight he woke up and I urged him to go right back to bed while I finished watching a show. I suddenly saw headlights coming up my driveway. I anxiously…

When my youngest was little, I used to tell him a story. It went something like this… “I loved being a mommy so very much that after your brothers were born I knew I wanted more babies. I prayed and I prayed only it didn’t look like it would happen. So I said a special…

Every marriage deserves the right to be saved before it is ultimately abandoned. The true conundrum is both individuals must want to salvage the relationship. Sadly, it often is just one of the two people who are truly invested in caring enough to do so. Therefore, it is important to make foundational changes that involve…

I walk with my neighbors. Our morning ritual visiting while our dogs visit. I tell my neighbor how much motherhood suits her daughter. How the light in her smile reflects the ease with which mothering comes to her. I tell them about the joy I felt after my first son was born just two years…

In counseling, you learn that there is absolutely no excuse for bad behavior. Well, let me clarify. There is zero excuse for repeated bad behavior. Something I wrote in my last column gave me pause. The fact that I ended my marriage to take my children out of a position of conflict, yet divorce put…

My son says something that stops me in my tracks. “Mom, is dad a good person?” I stop what I am doing. I realize that my sons are becoming young men and no longer the children of yesterday. Hence, the ability to actually verbalize this question rather than silently wonder. “Of course,” I say. “I…

We make our way into the church. What is a church to those of us who believe? It is a time for beginnings at baptism. A time for coming of age at confirmation. A time for joining of lives in matrimony. A time for saying our goodbyes when life calls us home. I listen to…

My Catholic mother wanted to teach me about love. She wanted desperately to keep her marriage together. To show me an example of beautifully, in-love parents. When it became unabashedly clear that she could not… My mother taught me a different lesson about love. In some ways, an even more remarkable love. My Mother taught…

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