Divorce is a huge loss for children. Life as they know it has forever changed. It is at the same time – a new beginning – a healing of past pain and a stronger, more positive future. Children need to know everything is going to be okay.   They need to have their home restored…

I am in my friend’s floral shop. A young woman and her mother sit in the event consultation room. The girl excuses herself to use the restroom. Instead, she secretly tiptoes towards the counter and purchases flowers. She turns and bounces back towards the room – smile on face and flowers in hand.  It is…

A few weeks ago one of my boys and I went out to dinner. “Mom,” he said. “I understand divorce but dad made a promise to you all of those years ago.” I looked across the table with a lump in my throat. Not for the reason you think. And not because of the confusion…

I have known numerous individuals who just wanted a divorce and to move on. The problem? Their spouse was not ready to. Even more interesting? Some of these spouses had cheated, yet still could not let go of the marriage which they had sabotaged. The common denominator? The individual ready to move forward invested heavily…

I am watching the Steve Harvey Show. It’s a rerun highlighting the Girls Who Rule the World Program which the Harvey’s founded. A sweet teenage girl says something which catches me off guard. “I’m going through a divorce with my parents.” I am struck by the poignancy of her words. Most children simply say, “My parents…

I have always spoken to my children about love. Relationships are both beautiful and tough even in the best of circumstances and those with ego can destroy another person. I want them to know the type of love which is minus ego. This means I must also raise them to be mature and confident enough…

There’s an expression, “We are supposed to be getting better with age.” I’m not necessarily certain this is true in the area of love. I think it’s possible we love worse, not better. Less and not more. Poorly rather than richly. But children, they possess an ability to nurture and foster this emotion and a…

There is no better emotion than feeling loved. Love is the life charge that feeds our confidence, security, and happiness. Finding as many ways as possible to express it can only enrich our heart and our lives. Of course, we do spend time reminding those special people in our lives about love. We may whisper…

I once had a big dream.  To be a writer. My mother, on the other hand, believed writing was akin to acting. Business would be a far more sensible major. So off to college, I would go to learn the practical field of business. I remember sitting at my desk those first few days in…

The other day, someone asked me… Why children will smile next to a parent who has repeatedly hurt them and behaved badly? They were voicing their obvious confusion.  I understood their logical take on the otherwise illogical topic of a love turned messy. As a child of divorce, I know certain truths.  If you had…

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