As parents, we spend a fair amount of time agonizing over our mistakes. Certainly, we would have done many things differently. If only we hadn’t been grown children ourselves when we made our relationship choices and eventually married. Most of us had no idea our marriages would end. If we had, we wouldn’t have walked…

When my two oldest were little I read an article about how we needed to spend one on one time with our kids. It was going to make them feel even more loved and yadda yadda. Ever the self-help junkie I set about doing just that. I put my oldest who was four-years-old at the time…

I listen and it sounds all too familiar. A mother I know can’t stop beating herself up. Will her children suffer permanently since they don’t see their father enough? Will her son be okay without a present male influence in his life? Are her children experiencing typical adolescent angst or is it a result of…

I belong to a Facebook Group called Parentless Parents. We are a tribe of individuals who navigate parenting after the loss of our mothers and our fathers. This community was started by my friend and author Allison Gilbert. I initially met Allison when she interviewed me for her book Parentless Parents: How the Loss of Our Mothers…

As parents, we LOVE to do things for our children.  After all, it’s an expression of love. How could it be a bad thing? Or could it be? There comes an age where doing too much for our children WILL negatively impact their future relationships. In a word – It’s called self-responsibility and it is…

Four years ago today, I charged into an attorney’s office determined to begin again. Hindsight is twenty twenty as they say. As we all know, I couldn’t have been more naive. But I was gutsy and I was strong and my children’s well-being gave me the additional courage I needed. As my sister once said…

I once had a big dream.  To be a writer. My mother, on the other hand, believed writing was akin to acting. Business would be a far more sensible major. So off to college, I would go to learn the practical field of business. I remember sitting at my desk those first few days in…

A few weeks ago, I began to get melancholy because it’s that time of summer again. The time that reminds me my ‘little’ kids are now ‘big’ kids. The kinda big that means I only get to borrow them for the summer and Christmas and a few other stolen times in between. When they are…

I sit to write this morning with a lump in my throat. I will honestly say that had I known what would be unleashed when I started this process a year and a half ago, I am not certain that I would have done it. My children did not deserve any of this. They deserved…

The sun is starting to warm the morning sky. I am walking with my friends “Cookie” and “Candy.” Our conversation turns towards Mother’s Day. We chat about the influence mothers have on their children. I am reminded of the day my friend “Rosalita” said goodbye to her mother. “I wish you knew my mother,” says…

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