I am at a loss for words. I am not sure whether to say I am exhausted, nostalgic, somewhat sad or relieved. What I can say with certainty is I am at peace. The kind of serenity which comes with finally accomplishing what I set out to do some five years ago. First though, let…

I punch the keys and sip my coffee. Tears find their way down my cheeks. I dab at them as my chocolate lab Hazel snuggles closer to my feet. I find myself chuckling. In between the tears, that is. I am editing my own work. Am I that good I writer I could move myself…

I wish someone had cautioned me to take divorce one day at a time. Or should I say one ‘pain’ at a time? I wish they had mapped out each scenario and told me what to expect. The first hint of suffering in my children’s heart. The first time I would feel uncomfortable walking into…

Many years ago I read an article about the four traits of happy people.  I never forgot them. They were Optimism, Extroversion, Self-Esteem and a Sense of Being in Control. Before my marital problems, I can honestly say I spent my entire life feeling happy. There were definite challenges along the way. No life is…

These past few months I have been a bit inconsistent in my writing. It stems from what I will call the ‘Court-down’ aka the countdown. I had no idea the extent of preparation the months preceding court would entail. I have a new appreciation for the legal field. It’s my life and I have had…

I have a secret. One I could never force myself to pound out on these keys until I felt the tide turning. It was in the infancy of this unraveling of a marriage process. I remember the exact moment. I know just where my youngest baby stood when he uttered those words. “You’re different,” he…

The divorce discussion seems to be elevating in Hollywood.  And not in the typical fashion of announcing the latest couples to fall prey to this relationship malaise. But rather bringing much-needed awareness to the conversation. Most importantly, it shows the magnitude of the audience which exists in this arena. Relationships are precious and they are…

There have been numerous articles out recently about Flip or Flop star Tarek El Moussa’s divorce. What caught my attention were his comments (and I paraphrase) that his adverse reactions to medications and his divorce were worse than cancer. This reminds me of a friend who once told me, “I buried one husband and divorced…

I know, a fairly shocking title – read on. There is one topic which never fails to bring an immediate reader response. Narcissism. My mother was what I would call a forerunner in the world of alcoholism. In a generation of women who stayed silent and dutiful in marriage and most importantly either ignored the…

I have always placed an amazing value on friendship. It’s one of the reasons I had a hard time leaving any man or woman behind.  If I love you it generally means I love you for life As we know, divorce taught me otherwise. You do in fact, have to leave many behind but in that transition…

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