{"id":166,"date":"2010-02-28T20:36:53","date_gmt":"2010-02-28T20:36:53","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/homeshuling\/2010\/02\/mishloach-manot-or-theyre-really-just-not-that-into-us.html"},"modified":"2010-02-28T20:36:53","modified_gmt":"2010-02-28T20:36:53","slug":"mishloach-manot-or-theyre-really-just-not-that-into-us","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/homeshuling\/2010\/02\/mishloach-manot-or-theyre-really-just-not-that-into-us.html","title":{"rendered":"Mishloach Manot, or, they&#8217;re really just not that into us"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>For the first four years of Ella&#8217;s life, we delivered many mishloach manot baskets, but did not receive a single one. We don&#8217;t live in a very observant community, and many of our friends are either not Jewish or non-practicing (or rely on me for all of their Jewish practice.) It didn&#8217;t really bother me, but I did worry that if this trend continued, it <em>would<\/em> start to bother my children.<br \/>\n<img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignright size-medium wp-image-1183\" src=\"https:\/\/homeshuling.files.wordpress.com\/2010\/02\/img_1450.jpg?w=300\" alt=\"\" width=\"240\" height=\"180\" \/><br \/>\nFortunately, once Ella started day school last year, we started to develop at least a small community of Jewishly involved friends. And the mishloach manot began to trickle in. It&#8217;s not as if we need more hamentashen. (We need them &#8220;like a hole in the head,&#8221; as my grandmother would say.) But the delivery of handmade treats at your doorstep, especially when the delivery is performed by small hands, is actually an incredibly touching gesture. We probably don&#8217;t have more or better friends than we did a few years ago, but \u00a0you know what? It feels like we do.<br \/>\nIn this spirit, I highly recommend <a href=\"http:\/\/books.google.com\/books?id=4EtZfNZBweAC&amp;printsec=frontcover&amp;dq=the+purim+surprise&amp;source=bl&amp;ots=VDtRVIDp6K&amp;sig=_wkd-Bxa-SzS3gUoOo4Pa9bTDhg&amp;hl=en&amp;ei=CxSLS9irLoWflAeh_7zOAQ&amp;sa=X&amp;oi=book_result&amp;ct=result&amp;resnum=3&amp;ved=0CBYQ6AEwAg#v=onepage&amp;q=&amp;f=false\">The Purim Surprise<\/a>, a lovely, lovely Purim book about mishloach manot by Lesley Simpson (author of <a href=\"http:\/\/homeshuling.wordpress.com\/2009\/05\/18\/sometimes-life-imitates-art\/\">The Shabbat Box<\/a>). It came out in 2003, but mysteriously I only read it for the first time on Friday. (i think the cover art might have turned me off &#8211; don&#8217;t make the same mistake I did&#8230;.) She captures perfectly how this mitzvah, and perhaps mitzvot in general, connect us to one another.<br \/>\nPS &#8211; What did you put in your baskets? We made hamentashen, kettle corn, and oatmeal cookies. And no plastic wrap or baggies!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>For the first four years of Ella&#8217;s life, we delivered many mishloach manot baskets, but did not receive a single one. We don&#8217;t live in a very observant community, and many of our friends are either not Jewish or non-practicing (or rely on me for all of their Jewish practice.) 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