{"id":156,"date":"2013-11-18T06:32:29","date_gmt":"2013-11-18T06:32:29","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/heartofthesoul\/?p=156"},"modified":"2013-11-18T06:32:29","modified_gmt":"2013-11-18T06:32:29","slug":"are-you-waiting-for-the-rain","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/heartofthesoul\/2013\/11\/are-you-waiting-for-the-rain.html","title":{"rendered":"Are You Waiting for the Rain?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"change<\/a>I have a friend who is currently living her dream come true. Everything seems to be working out in her life. She enjoys her job, her kids are happy and healthy, and she\u2019s in a loving relationship. She makes a comfortable living, lives in a nice house, her basic needs (and oftentimes more) are accounted for. She should be happy. Or so she says. And she is\u2026 but she also isn\u2019t.<\/p>\n

Her soul wants her to be happy. Her soul knows how deserving she is of all of this good fortune. Her soul knows that she is worthy of this life.<\/p>\n

But her brain isn\u2019t so sure. Her brain keeps playing its old tapes \u2013 it keeps reliving the past. It keeps reminding her that life hasn\u2019t always been easy \u2013 that it hasn\u2019t always flowed so nicely. It keeps casting a black cloud over her sunny present – a constant reminder that maybe she shouldn\u2019t get too comfortable and maybe she shouldn\u2019t settle into this happiness because it could be taken away at any moment.<\/p>\n

And so even though everything externally seems to be going really well for this friend, she hasn\u2019t allowed herself to enjoy it. She keeps waiting for her blue skies to cloud over and for the rain to begin to pour down.<\/p>\n

She is almost expecting it.<\/p>\n

Can you relate? Are you also waiting for the rain \u2013 even if it\u2019s gorgeous sunny days in your world right now, are you anticipating the storm to roll in?\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

So many of us are uncomfortable being happy and staying in our own happiness.<\/strong> It can feel so foreign to us. And, if we aren\u2019t conscious of it, we can sabotage this sunny life and settle for one filled with dark skies.<\/p>\n

If you can relate, and you\u2019re looking for a way to change this pattern, I would suggest the following:<\/strong><\/p>\n

1. Realize that this is a pattern.<\/strong> And realize that you have the power to change it \u2013 to shift away from it \u2013 to move in a direction that\u2019s different from the one you\u2019re used to going in.<\/p>\n

2.<\/strong>\u00a0Get really honest with yourself.<\/strong> Do you truly believe that you deserve to be happy? Not at the brain (everyone deserves happiness) level, but at the soul (you are enough) level. Because if you don\u2019t, no amount of awareness and mental shifting is going to help. It\u2019s just not. Unless you honestly can feel your own worthiness and believe in your own worthiness, there is no reason for this pattern to change.<\/p>\n

3.<\/strong> Assuming you do believe that you are worthy and you are ready to shift this pattern, you can begin taking steps toward embracing your own happiness and shifting your pattern<\/strong>. Let\u2019s say that something good happens to you \u2013 you get promoted or begin a new relationship or feel absolute love from your kids. And now let\u2019s imagine that you feel pure happiness from this good event. And you allow yourself to stay in it. Whenever a thought tries to pop up and shift you away from this happiness, you kindly ask it to keep floating by. You continue focusing on feeling happy. You continue to tell yourself that you deserve this good news and this happiness, and you continue basking in it. And then another thought comes up \u2013 one of your \u201cpattern thoughts\u201d \u2013 the ones that live in the past and believe that just because something happened before means that it will definitely happen again. So this thought comes up and feels pretty powerful. It grabs your attention, and you feel yourself begin to get sucked into it. You can feel your happiness waning.<\/p>\n

This moment is absolutely critical. This is where you\u2019re going to choose your own happiness. This is a huge deal.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Because it\u2019s in this moment that you can actually change your thought pattern and create a new one. It\u2019s in this moment that you can train your mind to no longer believe that you aren’t deserving of happiness or you aren\u2019t lovable enough to experience it or just because you\u2019re happy now doesn\u2019t mean you\u2019ll always be happy or who do you think you are to be happy. Whatever your thought pattern is, you have the power to change it! Right here in this moment.<\/p>\n

You have the ability to create a new thought. One that allows you to be happy.<\/strong> One that believes that you are deserving of it. One that gives you permission to glow from it and bask it in. That kind of thought.\u00a0You have the ability to replace your old thoughts one by one with self-empowering, loving thoughts that are based on the present moment.<\/p>\n

And no, this change probably won\u2019t happen overnight. But if you stick with it and stay conscious, it will happen \u2013 little by little. Until one day you\u2019ll look around you and realize that you\u2019re happy. And you\u2019ll see that as a wonderful thing. You’ll realize that you don’t have to wait for the rain – you can dance in the sun!\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

That\u2019s what I wish for my friend, and that\u2019s also what I wish for you.<\/p>\n

Hugs,<\/p>\n

Jodi<\/p>\n

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