{"id":36,"date":"2014-05-04T06:01:48","date_gmt":"2014-05-04T06:01:48","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/healingandtransformation\/?p=36"},"modified":"2014-05-04T06:01:48","modified_gmt":"2014-05-04T06:01:48","slug":"people-hurting-us-how-to-deal-with-them","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/healingandtransformation\/2014\/05\/people-hurting-us-how-to-deal-with-them.html","title":{"rendered":"People Hurting Us – How to Deal with Them"},"content":{"rendered":"
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How do others hurt us? Every person on this planet has felt hurt justifiably or unjustifiably (does it matter?) – it’s the human condition. It’s impossible to escape such feelings unless you reach a state of “enlightenment.”<\/p>\n

Regarding feeling hurt at the hand of other people, on a fundamental level, they can only do this if we let them!!!<\/p>\n

Nobody has that right!<\/p>\n

They are the people who need help and compassion.<\/p>\n

I think more sensitive people (like me) are more easily hurt, and it’s not really just a question of allowing. I think it’s a path and journey of maturation. We are always developing as human being.<\/p>\n

On a mystical level, all is chosen, so ALL IS RESPONSIBILITY. From a spiritual level, there really are NO victims.<\/p>\n

I have felt the pain of being a victim, yet that is an illusion, and perhaps what we call ego<\/em>. If people have power over you and they abuse it, then it can affect one’s life, certainly in my case it was a job situation that had great ramifications that I still feel today in terms of opportunities not coming my way….so it’s not as easy as just walking away. Or perhaps it is!<\/p>\n

There is always a spiritual reflection for that which we experience in a physical sense. Nothing happens by accident without its lessons. It doesn’t mean we need obsess over every detail. Patterns present themselves for a purpose, and there is always an underlying lesson.<\/p>\n

\u201cWhen another person makes you suffer, it is because he suffers deeply within himself, and his suffering is spilling over. He does not need punishment; he needs help. That\u2019s the message he is sending.\u201d<\/em>
\n~ Thich Nhat Hanh<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Aside from engendering compassion for others, and keeping them in our prayers, I will end with some key advice for dealing with people. You will know which people I am referring to!<\/p>\n

It’s important to protect themselves from people who unwittingly drain us or make us feel bad within our private and professional lives.<\/p>\n

Godspeed…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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