My son and I are entering a new phase. He’s in seventh grade now. This past week I took him out with an older man in the church to learn how to safely shoot a real gun. In a world of Halo and first person shooting games, boys need men to teach them honor, respect, and godliness.<\/p>\n
We shot guns for a few hours. I watched the joy of learning and trying something both dangerous and “adult.”\u00a0 I love watching another godly man speak into my son’s life about both faith and honor.\u00a0 I watch my son grow from a little boy to a young man,<\/p>\n
This week we also continued part six of our father-son sex talks. Like with my daughter, I am taking him through a book to generate conversation. We are reading Preparing Your Son For Everyman’s Battle<\/em>. We spoke about body parts, temptations, and why sex need not be an awkward or dirty subject.<\/p>\n We spoke practically about how to keep your eyes pure. The importance of purity, and what to do after you give in to temptation.<\/p>\n We laughed, shared stories, and cleared up some misconceptions. When I gave him some medical names for different body parts and fluids, he stopped me and said… “Oh dad, I just got like 100 jokes, just now that you said that…”<\/p>\n Proverbs encourages sons to listen to fathers. The Proverbs encourages us as dads to speak frankly and regularly with our sons about sex, finances, and faith.<\/p>\n Sex needs to be a topic, not just a talk.<\/p>\n I do premarital counseling with couples and can tell you that 90% of couples I meet with have never had a talk with their parents.\u00a0 Song of Solomon was a book used by men to teach their young men the truths about sex from God’s perspective.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n