{"id":325,"date":"2009-04-17T14:00:00","date_gmt":"2009-04-17T14:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/freshliving\/2009\/04\/creating-real-life-plantasies.html"},"modified":"2009-04-17T14:00:00","modified_gmt":"2009-04-17T14:00:00","slug":"creating-real-life-plantasies","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/freshliving\/2009\/04\/creating-real-life-plantasies.html","title":{"rendered":"Making Our &#8216;Plantasies&#8217; Real"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>We all have them. Plans for the future and fantasies for how we&#8217;d like them to work out. Some are practical, some outlandish, most a combo&#8211;I recently started calling these &#8220;plantasies.&#8221; <\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;ve been plantasizing a lot this very cold and gray spring. About moving somewhere gorgeous (i.e., with trees and swimmable bodies of water nearby). The kind of place where weather isn&#8217;t that important because the beauty of most days is immediately apparent&#8211;the trees look mysterious in the clouds, the sky all gray and wet has a certain mystique, the howling wind sways the leaves. I&#8217;ll live in a house made from recycled timber with skylights. Feng shui-correct architecture for optimal chi-flow. A cat or two. No houses close because we&#8217;re next to a National Forest. And by &#8220;we&#8221; I mean my nurturing, smart, funny, spiritual, wise life partner. We have a great community of friends. My mind is calm and kind to me. My body healthy. I&#8217;ve got several books published, teach yoga, travel occasionally around the country and the world teaching and talking and playing with people to somehow create better, healthier lives. <\/p>\n<p><!--more--><\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s not Mother Theresa stuff. And it&#8217;s not necessarily all I want all the time, but it&#8217;s a plantasy that I&#8217;d like to plant, like a seed (plant-a-seeds?), and see if it has anything at all to do with&nbsp;what the Universe is planning. <\/p>\n<p>I know some things I can do that might&nbsp;nudge this along&#8211;&#8220;ask, believe, receive.&#8221; Present-tense affirmations, yadda. I know plenty of spiritual philosophies, like the Law of Attraction,&nbsp;say we are the ultimate directors of our lives&#8211;that we have chosen everything from our parents to our bank balances. I&#8217;m not certain I believe that, and maybe that&#8217;s why I don&#8217;t have all those things yet. <\/p>\n<p>Other&nbsp;approaches say the work is simply to learn to be happy with what we have. And yet others say that once we feel gratitude for what we have, we&#8217;ll get all those things we want precisely because we don&#8217;t NEED them to be happy. The ultimate koan&#8211;once you stop needing it, you get it. Once we learn to feed ourselves, life hands us a platter. Arg. That one has hooked me&#8211;I get tetchy with my secret hopes, the ones that have deep, spindly roots that are craving water. Like, &#8220;Hey Mr. Desire, if you could be less central, or perhaps evaporate altogether, then I could have what I want. So shove over.&#8221; <\/p>\n<p>But nope. It doesn&#8217;t work that way. How does it work, exactly? Balancing needs and wants, getting what we want, not sounding like a Rolling Stones song? Etc? <\/p>\n<p><strong>After that rambling, what&#8217;s one of your plantasies? How are you making it real?<\/strong> <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>We all have them. Plans for the future and fantasies for how we&#8217;d like them to work out. Some are practical, some outlandish, most a combo&#8211;I recently started calling these &#8220;plantasies.&#8221; I&#8217;ve been plantasizing a lot this very cold and gray spring. 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