{"id":165,"date":"2009-09-02T10:10:49","date_gmt":"2009-09-02T10:10:49","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/flirtingwithfaith\/2009\/09\/why-is-it-so-hard-to-let-go-of-our-shortcomings.html"},"modified":"2009-09-02T10:10:49","modified_gmt":"2009-09-02T10:10:49","slug":"why-is-it-so-hard-to-let-go-of-our-shortcomings","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/flirtingwithfaith\/2009\/09\/why-is-it-so-hard-to-let-go-of-our-shortcomings.html","title":{"rendered":"Why is It So Hard to Let Go of Our Shortcomings?"},"content":{"rendered":"<div>Whether pursued through therapy, recovery or spiritual endeavors, sustained transformational change of heart, mind and life is difficult to achieve. Who hasn&#8217;t made and broken a commitment to get more organized, stop smoking, quit drinking, work more, work less, stop snapping at our kids, be more caring toward out spouse, etc.? And yet, despite an honest desire to change, we frequently find ourselves back right back where we started. Came across this video (thanks Karen and Rey) that illustrates the challenge of letting go&#8230;<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<p><object width=\"425\" height=\"344\"><param name=\"movie\" value=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/v\/UXut0HxncvY&amp;hl=en&amp;fs=1&amp;\" \/><param name=\"allowFullScreen\" value=\"true\" \/><param name=\"allowscriptaccess\" value=\"always\" \/><embed src=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/v\/UXut0HxncvY&amp;hl=en&amp;fs=1&amp;\" type=\"application\/x-shockwave-flash\" allowscriptaccess=\"always\" allowfullscreen=\"true\" width=\"425\" height=\"344\"><\/object> <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Whether pursued through therapy, recovery or spiritual endeavors, sustained transformational change of heart, mind and life is difficult to achieve. 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