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I confess that back when I first started dating Mrs. Feiler Faster I was wholly turned off by the fish-and-salad routine at dinner. Okay, fine, I get that people don’t eat meat for all sorts of valid reasons, but I couldn’t help thinking what a bummer it would be when we traveled. Try finding a fresh vegetable in Tehran, for example. Trying getting through Turkey without eating kebabs.
\nWell, it turns out, catching a man <\/a>is proving to be a more powerful philosophy than eco-veganism. <\/p>\n

Salad, it seems, is out. Gusto, medium rare, is in.
\nRestaurateurs and veterans of the dating scene say that for many women, meat is no longer murder. Instead, meat is strategy. \u201cI\u2019ve been shocked at the number of women actually ordering steak,\u201d said Michael Stillman, vice president of concept development for the Smith & Wollensky Restaurant Group, which opened the restaurant Quality Meats in April 2006 on West 58th Street. He said Quality Meats\u2019 contemporary design and menu, including extensive seafood offerings, were designed to attract more women than a traditional steakhouse. \u201cBut the meat is appealing to them, much more than what I saw two or three years ago at our other restaurants,\u201d Mr. Stillman said. \u201cThey are going for our bone-in sirloin and our cowboy-cut rib steak.\u201d
\nIn an earlier era, conventional dating wisdom for women was to eat something at home alone before a date, and then in company order a light dinner to portray oneself as dainty and ladylike. For some women, that is still the practice. \u201cIt\u2019s better not to have a jalape\u00f1o fajita plate, especially on the first date,\u201d said Andrea Bey, 28, who sells video surveillance equipment in Irving, Tex., and describes herself as \u201ccurvy.\u201d \u201cYou don\u2019t want to be labeled as \u2018princess gassy\u2019 on the first date.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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