{"id":122,"date":"2010-08-27T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2010-08-27T04:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/fearofwhales\/2010\/08\/the-car-accident-incident.html"},"modified":"2011-04-23T23:07:37","modified_gmt":"2011-04-24T03:07:37","slug":"the-car-accident-incident","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/fearofwhales\/2010\/08\/the-car-accident-incident.html","title":{"rendered":"The Car Accident Incident"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" alt=\"\" class=\"alignright\" height=\"235\" src=\"https:\/\/snailgoop.com\/2009\/04\/police_line_donotcross-300x235.jpg\" width=\"300\" \/>A strange thing happened the other night&#8230; I was out for a walk late at night, and I found that the intersection by my house was all blocked off in police tape because of an accident, walking by I could clearly see two cars involved, and a body in the street covered by a tarp, somebody had died. I walked by slowly, for once appreciating the opportunity to see how&#160;collisions&#160;are &#160;handled &#160;without holding up traffic, and noticed one of the parties involved was being questioned by the police with her family. I decided to continue with my walk, musing as I went about the fragility of life and the fact that at the moment this happened, I was less than a mile away telling jokes with my neighbors.<br \/>\nBy the time I returned en route back to my house, one of the lanes had been cleared, most of the shrapnel had been cleaned up, and the family was sitting on a bench outside the police line, One woman who had clearly been driving, was bent over in tears. My heart went out to the woman and her family, she had killed a man that night, she knew it, and she obviously felt the full significance of that. I heard someone way &quot;Well, they say we&#039;re free to go&quot; and the woman looked up from her tears and choked out the words &quot;You mean, they&#039;re not gonna pit me in&#160;prison?&quot; almost in unison the&#160;family&#160;responded &quot;NO! you&#039;re okay it was an accident, the police know that&quot; As her they tried to&#160;comfort&#160;her I quietly and&#160;politely&#160;walked by, or at least I tried to.<br \/>\nThis is probably a good time to mention that I&#039;m pretty skeptical as&#160;Christians&#160;go, I don&#039;t do a lot based on emotion or tradition, I like facts and figures. This translates poorly into certain doctrines and certain&#160;spiritual&#160;experiences. For instance, I have never been &quot;slain in the spirit&quot;. I don&#039;t speak in tongues, I hate it when people investigate first dates in terms of &quot;God&#039;s will for their life&quot; and I have never, ever, felt supernatural pressure to talk to, pray for, or evangelize a stranger. Ever!&#8230;until the other night.<br \/>\nSo God and I had this argument in my head that went something as follows. (if you&#039;re&#160;reading&#160;and you&#039;re not a&#160;Christian, The voice of God sounds to me much like a thought in my head. Sometimes I get the two confused, but in situations like this where I&#039;m&#160;apparently&#160;thinking things I disagree with it&#039;s easier to tell)<br \/>\nSo In my head I said &#160;&quot;Boy I sure hope God puts some people in her life that can help her through her grief&quot; and the idea arrived in my head that went something like &quot;I just did&quot;<br \/>\nThis all happened very fast, and I&#039;d love to say that at that moment I&#160;realized&#160;that it made no sense to be arguing with the almighty in my head and proceeded to make the right decision, but i didn&#039;t have time to think that through before I retorted back&#160;&quot;No I mean like a grief counselor or something, someone who&#039;s an expert in this&#8230;&quot; and almost as soon as the thought was formed it dawned on me&#8230;&quot; You&#039;re a Pastor&quot;&#8230;<br \/>\n&quot;Shoot, missed opportunity, I&#039;m already passed them now&quot;<br \/>\n&quot;You could go back&quot;<br \/>\n&quot;I can&#039;t go back, that&#039;s awkward, that&#039;s weird, this person does not need another stranger who&#8230;&quot;<br \/>\n&quot;What did you think you were on this walk for anyway?&quot;<br \/>\n&#8230;Well now that shut me up. I don&#039;t know, I had just felt the need to take a walk, It&#039;s not normally my style to leave a social&#160;environment&#160;to go for a walk but sometimes you just need a walk, and now I&#039;m here, and there was this&#160;accident&#160;and this woman needs someone to&#160;comfort&#160;her, and I&#039;m arguing with myself that I need to go back and&#8230;Got it, I need to go back.<br \/>\nSo I turned back towards them, the oldest son caught my eyes and I felt&#160;completely&#160;creepy, I was a total stranger, younger&#160;than anyone there, wearing &#160;jean shorts and a cotton green sportcoat from a thrift store, walking towards them&#8230; barefoot&#8230;<br \/>\n&quot;Hi&#8230; I&#039;m so sorry to but my nose where it doesn&#039;t belong, but&#8230; Is there anything I can do To help?&#8230;.I&#039;m a pastor, Can I pray for you?<br \/>\nThe man didn&#039;t pause &quot;Yeah!&quot; he said nodding &quot;That&#039;s okay ma?&quot;<br \/>\nShe looked up at me &quot;Yes&#8230;.I&#039;m Jewish, but&#8230;&quot;<br \/>\nI smiled, &quot;That&#039;s okay&quot; I said waving my hand<br \/>\n<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" alt=\"\" class=\"alignleft at-xid-6a014e87f1cb84970d01538dfeadf4970b\" height=\"244\" src=\"https:\/\/fearofwhales.typepad.com\/.a\/6a014e87f1cb84970d01538dfeadf4970b-pi\" width=\"420\" \/>The group gathered around in a circle there was about 8 of us, I put my hands on the backs of the women to either side of me, the driver was across from me, her name was Fran, and we all prayed&#160;together, a&#160;Christian&#160;pastor, a Jewish mother,&#160;certainty&#160;some people who hadn&#039;t prayed in years if ever. It was a simple prayer, lasting no longer than a minute, I called on God as Father, to hold us closer in the wake of this&#160;tragedy, and to help us to life out our days in this fallen world, I prayed specifically for Fran to be filled with a sense of his love and forgiveness of her, that she&#039;d know she is always loved and always accepted.<br \/>\nWhen the prayer was over she looked at me, holding back tears. &quot;Thank you! Thank You&#8230;.thank you.&quot; and she gave me a hug and then headed to her car to go home.<br \/>\nAs I left another woman approached me &quot;You&#039;re a pastor?&#8230;Where do you work.&quot; I briefly explained and she said &quot;I mean where can I find you? I&#039;m a lost lamb, I need a church&quot; So I have her my contact info to help her find a place locally.<br \/>\nAnd that&#039;s the story, that&#039;s it. No fire from heaven, no&#160;spirit&#160;descending&#160;like a dove, she didn&#039;t accept&#160;Christ&#160;that night, she just prayed with me, and I think it helped.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>A strange thing happened the other night&#8230; I was out for a walk late at night, and I found that the intersection by my house was all blocked off in police tape because of an accident, walking by I could clearly see two cars involved, and a body in the street covered by a tarp,&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":391,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[30,192,10,54],"tags":[219,217,220,221,218],"class_list":["post-122","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-ace-posts","category-helping-people-and-social-justice","category-inspiration-2","category-theology","tag-car-accident","tag-death","tag-help","tag-pray","tag-prayer"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v23.9 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>The Car Accident Incident - A Fear of Whales<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/fearofwhales\/2010\/08\/the-car-accident-incident.html\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"The Car Accident Incident - A Fear of Whales\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"A strange thing happened the other night&#8230; 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