{"id":3251,"date":"2016-04-01T08:43:53","date_gmt":"2016-04-01T12:43:53","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/everydayspirituality\/?p=3251"},"modified":"2016-03-30T14:46:35","modified_gmt":"2016-03-30T18:46:35","slug":"lies-never-get-us-anywhere","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/everydayspirituality\/2016\/04\/lies-never-get-us-anywhere.html","title":{"rendered":"Lies never get us anywhere"},"content":{"rendered":"

The film: What We Did on Our Holiday,<\/a> is not bad. I\u2019d even recommend it to watch.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s about a soon-to-be divorced couple, with 3 children, who travel to Scotland to attend the 75th<\/sup> birthday party of terminally ill \u201cgrandfather.\u201d The couple decides it is better not to tell the grandfather that they are headed to divorce. They tell the kids to pretend the family is happy and cohesive.<\/p>\n

Of course it\u2019s difficult to pretend and lie. The truth eventually comes out. Film writers and directors, Andy Hamilton and Guy Jenkin spotlighted the truth that most families are dysfunctional and muddling through life the best way they know how, hopefully realizing that doing so with love is better than doing so with anger.<\/p>\n

I couldn\u2019t help but think back to my parent\u2019s generation when parents stayed married more often than not.<\/p>\n

It was my generation that bumped up the divorce rate to 50%. We thought we shouldn\u2019t have to live like our parents who endured horrible marriages, so we made divorce fashionable.<\/p>\n

But now, the idea of staying married, not for the sake of staying married or for the children so much, but for the sake of exercising love<\/a> and forgiveness rather than hate and resentment, is returning. I guess my parent\u2019s generation wasn\u2019t so old-fashioned after all. I remember Mom and Dad getting over their strong opinions and coming to agreements.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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