{"id":253,"date":"2009-12-04T09:15:29","date_gmt":"2009-12-04T09:15:29","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/everydayethics\/2009\/12\/im-still-pissed-about-marriage-equality-not-passing-in-new-york-state-but-is-it-my-fault.html"},"modified":"2009-12-04T09:15:29","modified_gmt":"2009-12-04T09:15:29","slug":"im-still-pissed-about-marriage-equality-not-passing-in-new-york-state-but-is-it-my-fault","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/everydayethics\/2009\/12\/im-still-pissed-about-marriage-equality-not-passing-in-new-york-state-but-is-it-my-fault.html","title":{"rendered":"I’m Still Pissed About Marriage Equality Not Passing In New York State. But Is It My Fault?"},"content":{"rendered":"

I’ve said it before<\/a>, but it bears repeating: I don’t see another ethical position to take other than to support same-sex marriage.<\/p>\n

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This week, my home state shamed me by refusing to pass legislation legalizing gay marriage<\/a>. <\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
But is it actually MY fault it didn’t pass? <\/div>\n
<\/div>\n


\n<\/p>\n

Sure, I joined Facebook groups. I wrote passionately in support of it. But I’m wondering if, had I gotten more involved – joining protests, writing to my crappy, unsupportive state senators – I might have had some, perhaps miniscule, more influence on the outcome. <\/div>\n
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I don’t know. I’m so jaded about our political process that I tend to feel nothing I do can sway these shifty, corrupt, girlfriend-beating<\/a> crum-bums up in Albany. Still, should I not try as hard as I can?  I may not be gay, but as the poem goes: <\/div>\n
<\/div>\n

When the Nazis came for the
\ncommunists,<\/span>
I did not speak out;<\/span> As I was not a communist.<\/span>
When they locked up the
\nsocial democrats, I did not speak out; I was not a social democrat.<\/span>
When they came for the trade
\nunionists, I did not speak out;? As I was not a trade unionist.<\/span>
When they came for the Jews,? I
\ndid not speak out;? As I was not a Jew.<\/span>
When they came for me,? there
\nwas no one left to speak out. — Martin <\/span>Niem\u00f6ller<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

<\/p>\n

I’m not a fan of throwing
\ncomparisons to Hitler and the Nazis around at every opportunity. I think it’s
\noverwrought and inappropriate in most cases. But when you think about the
\nactual treatment
\nof homosexuals by the Nazis<\/a>, well… this rhetoric doesn’t seem quite so
\noverblown. <\/span><\/p>\n

If I don’t speak up now, what
\nhappens when the NY State Senate decides to curb MY civil rights?<\/span><\/p>\n

Marriage equality now!<\/font><\/i><\/b><\/span><\/p>\n


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