{"id":250,"date":"2009-12-02T15:35:32","date_gmt":"2009-12-02T15:35:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/everydayethics\/2009\/12\/when-do-you-act-like-a-good-samaritan-and-when-do-you-avert-your-gaze-and-keep-going.html"},"modified":"2009-12-02T15:35:32","modified_gmt":"2009-12-02T15:35:32","slug":"when-do-you-act-like-a-good-samaritan-and-when-do-you-avert-your-gaze-and-keep-going","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/everydayethics\/2009\/12\/when-do-you-act-like-a-good-samaritan-and-when-do-you-avert-your-gaze-and-keep-going.html","title":{"rendered":"When Do You Act Like A Good Samaritan, And When Do You Avert Your Gaze And Keep Going?"},"content":{"rendered":"

I ask because today, during lunch, a coworker and I were walking down the street, and we saw a man in a wheelchair, with only one leg, seeming to struggle to make his way down the block.<\/p>\n

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What did I do? <\/div>\n
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I looked away and moved on.  <\/div>\n
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Why did I do it? <\/div>\n
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\nMaybe the answer is, I’m a horrid person. Or maybe it was because the man smelled completely vile from halfway down the street, and looked borderline insane to boot. And I haven’t been a New Yorker for 35 years to get suckered or involve myself in the mishagos of potentially dangerous people.<\/p>\n

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Now granted, this guy wasn’t likely to be actively harmful to me (unless he had a partner in some kind of Oliver Twistian pocket-picking scheme, which isn’t as unlikely in NYC as one might think). But I feared a) getting a disease and b) getting into some kind of scuffle with a mentally ill person. I suppose I could have stopped to suss out the situation more instead of scurrying back to the office. But years of wariness and city street-smarts told me to keep moving and mind my own business.<\/div>\n
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One reason for this attitude is that, when I was just a teenager, a man asked me to give him directions. He had a map and everything. He asked me simply to point out where he was on the city map, and when I did, he reached out and fondled my breast. The horror and disgust I felt were beyond belief. And the anger was monumental. THIS was what I got for being a good Samaritan???  “Eff that,” I thought. People in this town are just too creepy to trust. Altruism is a quality I simply can’t afford.<\/div>\n
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So, I’m saddened by my own lack of faith in humanity, and by my lack of charitable behavior. The instinct to help is still there (incidentally, I read recently that children as young as 18 months display the instinct to come to others’ aid<\/a>), but I’m just too jaded to take much of a risk.<\/div>\n
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Time to move out of NY, perhaps? Or just time to readjust my attitude?<\/div>\n
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