{"id":200,"date":"2009-10-05T11:44:28","date_gmt":"2009-10-05T11:44:28","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/everydayethics\/2009\/10\/judge-not-or-not.html"},"modified":"2009-10-05T11:44:28","modified_gmt":"2009-10-05T11:44:28","slug":"judge-not-or-not","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/everydayethics\/2009\/10\/judge-not-or-not.html","title":{"rendered":"Judge Not… Or Not?"},"content":{"rendered":"<\/p>\n

\"normal_snapping_fingers.gif\"<\/a><\/span>We shouldn’t make snap decisions, right? At least, that’s the message I believe one of our commenters was trying to get across when he (or she) wrote in response to our David Letterman post, “Hero Or Creep<\/a>“: <\/p>\n

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Might there not be an ethical question in deciding whether you can judge someone as creepy without knowing the facts as you admittedly do not? –gmo2<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

It’s a good rule of thumb: don’t judge too hastily. And on this blog, I generally like to pose open-ended questions when the moral and ethical dilemmas we discuss don’t have easy answers, or when all the facts aren’t in. However, in Letterman’s case…<\/p>\n

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…he copped to sleeping with several young interns on his show right from the get-go. So, I’m judging him based on facts in evidence.<\/p>\n

Now, a higher moral standard might be to strive not to judge even then. I haven’t walked a mile in the talk show host’s shoes. Or in Anita Tedaldi’s<\/a>, or any number of the other cases we’ve discussed. Might I not, if faced with the temptations, struggles, and pitfalls these fellow humans have stumbled over, do similarly–or worse? <\/p>\n

Maybe those interns simply were <\/em>completely irresistible. Maybe that adoption truly was the wrong choice for all concerned. Maybe Polanski<\/a> really did have to skip town to evade his prison sentence. I don’t know. And I certainly wouldn’t like people pouring over my <\/em>choices, rummaging through my dirty laundry, and throwing the proverbial stones at me.<\/p>\n

So is it unethical to weigh in with opinions on hot topics here on Everyday Ethics? I don’t think so. Yes, I believe we must be careful. Yes, I think the benefit of the doubt is laudable and you better believe I weigh it with each keystroke as I type my entries on this blog. But I also believe judgment is one of our highest faculties as humans, and it is there as the lodestone of our moral compass. It’s what steers us true. It’s why I ask questions like, “hero or creep”, silly as they may sound at first blush. I’m trying to get at analytical thinking, and, for the most part, the responses I have received in our comments board have been heartening, challenging, and exciting, showing me that you-all care as much as I do about these issues. <\/p>\n

I guess I’m trying to argue that some <\/em>forms of discrimination aren’t wrong–they’re literally necessary. The ability to discern <\/em>is part of what makes human beings intelligent. And, when new facts come into evidence, we have an amazing option… we can change our minds<\/em>. <\/p>\n

So… agreed… let’s not pillory people unfairly, but do let’s talk about the moral issues brought up by their behavior in the public sphere.<\/p>\n

Agree? Disagree? Want to throw stones?<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

(Ducking and covering…) <\/p>\n

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