{"id":17,"date":"2009-05-18T09:15:00","date_gmt":"2009-05-18T09:15:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/everydayethics\/2009\/05\/keeping-the-tags-on-that-dress.html"},"modified":"2009-05-18T09:15:00","modified_gmt":"2009-05-18T09:15:00","slug":"keeping-the-tags-on-that-dress","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/everydayethics\/2009\/05\/keeping-the-tags-on-that-dress.html","title":{"rendered":"Keeping the Tags On That Dress–Just In Case"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"bridesmaid<\/span>My brother’s wedding is right around the corner, and what do you know, I’m a bridesmaid. Luckily, my fantastic sister-in-law-to-be chose a great<\/span> dress for her bridesmaids (thank you!), which is very wearable and wasn’t too expensive either. Just another sign he’s marrying the right person–yay! So, I snipped the tags off the minute I tried it on, no worries. I know I’ll get a lot of use out of this basic-black cocktail dress.<\/p>\n

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Last year, however, at another wedding, that wasn’t the case. <\/div>\n
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A girl I barely knew but couldn’t offend for political reasons invited me to her black-tie wedding at the last minute. My husband and I scrambled to buy gifts and get him a tux (thank you, ebay<\/a>!) and me a dress. Now, I don’t wear fancy clothes a lot–I’m a Dansko<\/a> clogs and jeans kind of girl–so a frou-frou frock appropriate for her 200k-plus wedding would not only set me back a bit but be useless in my daily life. Heck, I got my own<\/span> wedding dress for like $200 on ebay.<\/div>\n
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Anyhow, I bought something appropriate. But I left the tags on so I would have the option to return it the next day.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n

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The night of her nuptials, even as I made sure not to get wedding cake or pit stains on the frock, I wondered, is what I’m doing ethical? Isn’t this kind of like making Bergdorfs<\/a> or Bloomies<\/a> a lending library? Isn’t it one thing to buy something and later realize you don’t like it or it doesn’t fit and take it back; quite another to make a purchase in the full knowledge that you have no intention of keeping it? Aren’t the ethics<\/a> in the intent?<\/div>\n
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I know a lot of people do it–I think there was even a Sex In the City<\/a> episode to that effect– but in the end, I decided not to. It just felt wrong to me. <\/span><\/div>\n

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What do you think? Does it seem wrong to you?<\/span><\/div>\n
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By the way, that ridiculously frilly dress is still hanging in my closet, collecting dust. Anyone want to invite me to a chi-chi party?<\/div>\n
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