{"id":118,"date":"2009-08-07T12:30:00","date_gmt":"2009-08-07T12:30:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/everydayethics\/2009\/08\/failure-friday-whining-101.html"},"modified":"2009-08-07T12:30:00","modified_gmt":"2009-08-07T12:30:00","slug":"failure-friday-whining-101","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/everydayethics\/2009\/08\/failure-friday-whining-101.html","title":{"rendered":"Failure Friday: Whining 101"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"big_girl_panties_tee_tshirt.jpg\"<\/span>So, I whine. When I was a kid, my parents even had a name for my kvetching ways: “the wip.” As in, I would pooch out my lower lip as far as possible (which in my case was rather astonishingly far) and pout, whinge and whine to express my childish frustrations.<\/p>\n

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I’m a lot better these days–for one thing I mostly keep my wip–I mean lip–to myself–but I still have my wimpy moments. <\/div>\n
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Take this week, for instance. My big-girl panties must have been in the wash, because, OMG, I just could not<\/span> get it together. From Monday ’til today, I have simply been a mess<\/span>. It started with migraines and PMS. For me they go together, and both can last upwards of a week. (Apologies if TMI.) Add to that a heavy work week and jackhammering outside my window beginning at 7AM every morning. On top of that, a memorial service for an old friend whose presence will be much missed. By day 4 of continuous migraine, I was feeling pretty much five. As in years old. And acting it too. Complaining, teary-eyed, at the end of my rope.<\/div>\n
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Why is this an ethical failure? <\/span><\/div>\n

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Because I have so much to be grateful for<\/span>. A husband who cooks when the wife’s a puddle of headache and stress on the floor. An understanding boss. Heck, a job to cause the stress in the first place. Even a new computer on the way, which I desperately need and even more desperately crave. My mom’s health news is still good and the rest of my family is in decent shape too.<\/div>\n
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What I’m trying to say is, I consider it a failing of character to whine at a time like this. It is unprofessional at work, belittles the help and consideration my loved ones are so selflessly offering, and puts me in a mindset of small-mindedness, where I am of service to no one.<\/div>\n
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And because I consider it a breach of my personal code of right behavior, this week’s whining goes in the vault as my first (recorded) Friday Failure.<\/div>\n
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Do you have a failure (Friday or otherwise) you’d like to share? Or just want to criticize mine? Lay it on me!<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
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