{"id":3416,"date":"2011-10-17T00:43:32","date_gmt":"2011-10-17T04:43:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/dreamgates\/?p=3416"},"modified":"2011-10-15T08:59:14","modified_gmt":"2011-10-15T12:59:14","slug":"making-a-dream-date","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/dreamgates\/2011\/10\/making-a-dream-date.html","title":{"rendered":"Making a dream date"},"content":{"rendered":"
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"At the Foothills of Mt Helen". B.K.Connelly, 1981<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

You\u2019re separated from your sweetheart and you\u2019d like to have some good private time together. Can you do that? Absolutely. As in the old song, \u201cyou can reach [him or her] with your mind.\u201d The next question is: Your place or mine, or somewhere else altogether? How about meeting up at an elegant restaurant in Paris, or on a lava beach in Hawaii, or at the Moon Cafe (in the astral realm of Luna, don\u2019t you know?) where the bubbly is better than any earthly brand of champagne.\u00a0You can do this.<\/em><\/p>\n

If you are embarking on shared dreaming as home entertainment, you get to choose your category. Maybe it\u2019s not romance you\u2019re looking for tonight with that special person, but something more like an Indiana Jones movie, or the History channel, or a scifi adventure with better special effects than even James Cameron has so far contrived. You can have that too, and the best thing is you don\u2019t have to remain a spectator; you and your friend get starring roles.<\/p>\n

I know what I am talking about. I have walked on the back of a golden cobra the size of a skyscraper with a special friend to gain access to a very special library, dedicated to a goddess of ancient Egypt. I have shared excellent adventures in conscious shared dreaming with other friends and partners in which we have crossed time to visit the Viscontis in Renaissance Italy when they were using the earliest hand-painted Tarot cards to work magic, and into a world of Forest People \u2013 animate, talking trees \u2013 and into a possible future in which an order of priestess-scientists are seeking to repair our world.<\/p>\n

Want to try this? Do you have a partner or friend who is willing to play? If that person lives with you or near you, you can make a date to start out next to each other, in the bed or anyway close by. If you are intimate partners, you may find that tender lovemaking gives you the juice for a shared journey to the moon and stars \u2013 if both of you can stay awake or at least remember what happens in your dreams if you fall asleep.<\/p>\n

But shared dreaming doesn\u2019t require you to start out from the same place, or even on the same continent. And unless it\u2019s part of your agenda, sex is not required.<\/p>\n

To keep this simple, let\u2019s assume you have a friend who is not physically present, with whom you\u2019d like to share a dream adventure. You can set up your date like this:<\/p>\n

1.\u00a0Make the date.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

You might simply agree to try to meet in your dreams on (say) Wednesday night. Or you might be more time-specific, saying to each other \u201cMidnight Pacific Time\u201d or \u201cbetween one o\u2019clock and 5:00 AM.\u201d<\/p>\n

2.\u00a0Agree on a rendezvous<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you\u2019re new to this kind of thing, it\u2019s probably best to start out with a place in the physical world that one or both of you know. That cafe in Soho, that beach on Kauai, that stand of poplars in the Smoky Mountains. When you\u2019ve acquired some practice, you can set your sights on locations in this world that neither of you have visited, and locations beyond this world.<\/p>\n

3.\u00a0Make sure you agree on a juicy intention<\/strong><\/p>\n

The idea of simply hanging out with your partner in a delightful locale \u2013 and not having to pay for the plane ticket or the five-star hotel suite \u2013 may be juicy enough. But there may be something even more compelling the two of you
\nwould like to do, from figuring out how to get the house loan to
\nswimming with mermaids or spending the night locked in tantric embrace. Whatever your agenda, make sure it is exciting.
\nThe energy of a juicy intention will help you to get there.<\/p>\n

4.\u00a0Make your intention firm<\/strong><\/p>\n

This means that before going to bed, you\u2019ll write
\ndown and mentally affirm your intention to keep your rendezvous,
\nand pursue any further agenda you have agreed on with your partner.<\/p>\n

5.\u00a0Record your experiences<\/strong><\/p>\n

Write down whatever your remember from the night of your assignation, whether or not it seems remotely relevant to your intention<\/p>\n

6.\u00a0Share<\/strong><\/p>\n

Give your partner your raw report, unedited and uncensored.<\/p>\n

When you share, be alert to\u00a0the time-slip phenomenon<\/em>. When we go dreaming, we step\u00a0outside linear time \u2013 unless we are versed in the art of traveling close\u00a0to \u201creal time\u201d in order to track physical situations very closely. We\u00a0are capable of having shared experiences that are simultaneous in\u00a0dreamtime, but are recollected at widely differing times (hours, days or\u00a0even weeks or longer apart) in serial time. So if your reports\u00a0from the night of your rendezvous do not match up as closely as you\u00a0would like, be open to the possibility that one of you may have recalled\u00a0your shared experience earlier or later than the other \u2013 perhaps even\u00a0before the experiment was begun.<\/p>\n

For more on shared and interactive dreaming, see Active Dreaming<\/a><\/em> by Robert Moss. Published by New World Library.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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