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\"sleeping-1353562_1280\"Sleep: We need it and try to get it. But some nights we find ourselves tossing and turning and unable to find rest. And when we don’t rest, we can wake up tired and cranky. We\u00a0look at our spouse and think, “Why does she pull off my covers?” or “His snoring makes it impossible!” You know the old saying, “Laugh and the world laughs with you; snore and you sleep alone!” Whatever the sleep woe, it can affect more than your mood–it can impact your marriage.\u00a0Improve sleep, improve your marriage!<\/p>\n

On the positive side, good sleep can bring more intimacy. In fact, one study found that men treated their wives better when they got a good night’s rest. To make a restful night even better, try cuddling. It has a positive effect on both partners and \u00a0can lower anxiety and bring feelings of security to a relationship. And the closer the better! A\u00a0study in the UK found that an inch apart is better than 30 inches! You don’t need a tape measure to ensure proper distance, just get close, touch and be together!<\/p>\n

Sleeping a good seven hours or more also helps you better regulate your emotions. It takes the edge off and gives the body time to reboot. Consequently, better\u00a0sleep may prevent \u00a0hostile interactions brought on by being sleep deprived and stress. Basically, good sleep helps reduce conflict because you are emotional and physically rested.<\/p>\n

Some of you are thinking, I am trying to get a good night’s sleep, but my partner snores! I wake up\u00a0in the middle of the night and find myself\u00a0grumpy the next day. It’s true, distractions and interruptions lead to an irritable mood and\u00a0more bickering the next day! Sleep distractions\u00a0at night add up to less appreciation for our relationship the next day. If snoring is due to sleep apnea, a common cause, convince your partner to use a sleep aid like a CPAP machine. It will not only improve physical health, but might save your marriage.<\/p>\n

Loss of sleep can also aid memory loss. Hmmm…. maybe he forgot to take out the trash because he didn’t sleep well.\u00a0Try adding a little pink noise (lower frequency than\u00a0white noise) to help block out noise, but also to improve what is called slow-wave sleep (linked to memory). We need sleep to make memories stick. I tell this to college kids all the time. Staying up all night to study will end in irritability and a lack of memory.<\/p>\n

And what about late night TV watching and bingeing our favorite Netflix series? What does that do to a relationship? Researchers found that it results in less sleep, but also makes you less interested in your partner. This may be related to the connection of depression and loss of sleep. So turn off the TV, cuddle and get some Zzzzzs!<\/p>\n

So if your relationship could use a little improving, consider getting sleep as one way to prevent marital dissatisfaction and to make you a better person to be around. Do your part to create intimacy and satisfaction by paying attention to your sleep patterns and how they affect your relationship.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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