{"id":9025,"date":"2017-03-03T06:00:16","date_gmt":"2017-03-03T11:00:16","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/doinglifetogether\/?p=9025"},"modified":"2017-02-26T15:41:36","modified_gmt":"2017-02-26T20:41:36","slug":"need-relationshipwellness-coach","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/doinglifetogether\/2017\/03\/need-relationshipwellness-coach.html","title":{"rendered":"Do You Need Coaching or Counseling?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-medium wp-image-9028\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/258\/2017\/02\/learn-2004900_1920-300x212.jpg\" alt=\"learn-2004900_1920\" width=\"300\" height=\"212\" \/>Coaching is popular today. People hire coaches for all kinds of reasons related to achieving personal or professional goals. When you have a desired outcome, a coach can partner with you to achieve that outcome. Here is an example:<\/p>\n<p>Kelly knows she wants to lose weight, but fears her husband will sabotage her dieting attempts since this happened in the past. A friend of Kelly&#8217;s\u00a0recently hired a wellness coach and suggested Kelly\u00a0look into coaching as a way to move her forward on her weight loss efforts and handle her\u00a0relationships concerns.<\/p>\n<p>Kelly is thinking about it, but wonders how coaching is different from counseling. &#8220;I don&#8217;t want to get into a bunch of issues between my husband and I. I just want to know how to handle him when he unintentional sabotages my efforts. I need specific\u00a0strategies. &#8221;<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s good to have the distinction between coaching and counseling in your mind since the line can be blurred at times. Coaches are limited as to what they can do even when they are certified. In coaching, if significant psychological problems are discovered, the person\u00a0should be referred to a mental health professional. In counseling, professionals are\u00a0mostly dealing with problems. So if you are spending too much time talking about negative emotions and things aren\u2019t progressing, you probably need a counselor, not a coach.<\/p>\n<p>Coaching is more about helping people set goals and guiding their path to reach those goals. Coaching is present and future focused, not examining the past, and is more preventative and wellness focused.<\/p>\n<p>I see coaching as more educational and discovery based. People often want to self-explore and find better ways of optimizing their potential. For example, I had a highly successful client who wanted to push herself even more. She saw me to help her find\u00a0balance in her life as she moved\u00a0up the corporate ladder. She didn\u2019t want stress and anxiety to overtake her, nor did she want to jeopardize her\u00a0relationships. She knew she had a tendency towards workaholism and wanted to prevent this. So we set goals and she instituted several prevention measures and accountability markers regarding\u00a0her time and energy.<\/p>\n<p>Counselors want to get at the root of problems. In Kelly&#8217;s case, a counselor would want to explore the history of the couple&#8217;s relationship and inquire\u00a0about the relationship dynamics between Kelly and her husband. Counseling also focuses on alleviating symptoms and resolving emotional issues. Counselors\u00a0make diagnosis and establish treatment plans. In contrast, coaching aims to improve skills and focuses on performance. Coaches\u00a0work by setting goals and improving performance.<\/p>\n<p>When deciding to hire a coach or go to counseling, keep in mind that\u00a0there are similarities between coaching and counseling,but also differences in credentials, degrees, and the purposes of meeting together. Basically, if you are focused on specific goals to improve your performance, choose a coach. That said, counselors can help in those areas as well. However, their approach will be slightly different based on training and the process of therapy.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Coaching is popular today. People hire coaches for all kinds of reasons related to achieving personal or professional goals. When you have a desired outcome, a coach can partner with you to achieve that outcome. 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