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Mary is very close to her mom. So close, she can’t make a decision without checking with mom first. In fact, she worries that if something happens to mom, she would not know how to function.<\/p>\nMary is very close to her mom. So close, she can’t make a decision without checking with mom first. In fact, she worries that if something happens to mom, she would not know how to function.<\/p>\n
Is Mary’s tight relationship with her mom too much?<\/p>\n
Yes. This closeness doesn’t push\u00a0Mary to\u00a0develop an individual sense of self apart from her mom. While it\u00a0is important for Mary to have a strong connection to her mom, \u00a0she also needs separation. She is too fused with her mom.<\/p>\n
Fusion is not the same as intimacy. It moves beyond a desire for intimacy and is an extreme desire for completeness. In other words, mom needs to complete the insecure parts of Mary. This creates an unhealthy dependence.<\/p>\n
When you are fused or too close, you don’t trust your own thinking and allow others to think for you. The other person becomes\u00a0responsible for your happiness. Too much closeness gives the other person power over your well-being.<\/p>\n
Too much closeness can be emotional bondage. It prevents you from defining who you are apart from someone else. Fusion is based on the idea that someone else must complete you. No other person can do that. Only God can. His perfect love helps define who you are as a unique created person. Dependency on Him is the only healthy dependency.<\/p>\n
So if you find yourself answering YES to these questions, work on \u00a0developing a better sense of self.<\/p>\n
Mary is very close to her mom. So close, she can’t make a decision without checking with mom first. In fact, she worries that if something happens to mom, she would not know how to function. Is Mary’s tight relationship with her mom too much? Yes. This closeness doesn’t push\u00a0Mary to\u00a0develop an individual sense of…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":419,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[913,914],"tags":[3547,3549,3548,1382],"class_list":["post-8196","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-couple-relationships","category-family-relationships-2","tag-closeness","tag-dependence","tag-fusion","tag-intimacy"],"yoast_head":"\n