{"id":7396,"date":"2015-08-18T07:00:45","date_gmt":"2015-08-18T11:00:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/doinglifetogether\/?p=7396"},"modified":"2015-08-15T09:12:54","modified_gmt":"2015-08-15T13:12:54","slug":"7-ways-pride-makes-conflict-difficult","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/doinglifetogether\/2015\/08\/7-ways-pride-makes-conflict-difficult.html","title":{"rendered":"7 Ways Pride Makes Conflict Difficult"},"content":{"rendered":"

“Conflict is an inevitable reality. Like a car flying down the interstate, our body shuts the windows and locks the doors to contain all our pain. Conflict moves in a set direction on four wheels \u2013 distress, anger, fear and guilt. A rearview mirror allows us to focus on the past so we\u2019re not blindsided. The steering wheel of perception guides our direction, and sin fuels the conflict. <\/em><\/p>\n

But it\u2019s our pride that steps on the gas pedal. God gives us His wisdom, a brake pedal so we can stop. It\u2019s always there, right beside the gas.”<\/em> —MA Strategic Communication student, Eric Pilgrim<\/p>\n

This quote from a\u00a0student addresses\u00a0one of the most important issues that can block conflict resolution in a relationship–PRIDE.<\/p>\n

Pride<\/strong>\u00a0…<\/p>\n

stops us from going to a person with whom we have ought.<\/p>\n

keeps us from looking at our part of the conflict (A proud man is always looking down on things and people; and, of course, as long as you’re looking down, you can’t see something that’s above you.–C.S. Lewis)<\/p>\n

blinds us to the need for humility and listening to the heart of others (A man\u2019s pride brings him low, but a man of lowly spirit gains honor– Proverbs 29:23).<\/p>\n

puts us first, others last and wants to win (Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud– 1 Corinthians 13:4).<\/p>\n

leads to arguments (Proverbs 13:10).<\/p>\n

prevents us from saying sorry.<\/p>\n

makes reconciliation difficult, if not impossible.<\/p>\n

Are you in a conflict with someone and not making any headway in terms of resolving it?\u00a0Consider pride as a possible root of the problem.<\/p>\n

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