{"id":6748,"date":"2014-12-03T06:00:29","date_gmt":"2014-12-03T11:00:29","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/doinglifetogether\/?p=6748"},"modified":"2014-11-30T09:45:10","modified_gmt":"2014-11-30T14:45:10","slug":"10-ways-to-respond-to-family-betrayal","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/doinglifetogether\/2014\/12\/10-ways-to-respond-to-family-betrayal.html","title":{"rendered":"10 Ways to Respond to Family Betrayal"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"ID-10016236\"<\/a>Forgive and love generously. Remember, as you choose to forgive, bless and do good, this does not mean you condone negative behavior, are minimizing hurt or denying problems. It means you have decided to follow the words of Christ and do what does not come naturally to most of us. Our model is Christ. He was despised, rejected, and abused. Yet, he had compassion and loved the unlovely. What a challenge!<\/p>\n

As you encounter family members who are not always so loving, try these suggestions:<\/p>\n

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  1. Make attempts to resolve issues that have built up and caused resentment. Avoidance just leads to anger, unforgiveness, and bitterness.<\/li>\n
  2. Remember the good moments in your relationship. Do not deny problems, but balance negatives with positives.<\/li>\n
  3. Do something enjoyable together in order to build positive memories.<\/li>\n
  4. Control your tongue. It has the power of life and death according to the Book of James.<\/li>\n
  5. Pray for those who irritate you. Ask God to give you His heart when it comes to them.<\/li>\n
  6. Love people as yourself.<\/li>\n
  7. Consider the biblical principle\u2014what you sow, you reap (Galatians 6:7).<\/li>\n
  8. Forgive often and do not hold on to offense.<\/li>\n
  9. God\u2019s grace is a gift; offer it to others as well.<\/li>\n
  10. Read I Corinthians 13 as a true reminder of love. Love is patient, kind, does not envy or boast, keeps no records of wrong, hopes and never fails. (v. 4-7)<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Betrayal cuts deep. A husband cheats, a daughter lies, a friend goes behind your back\u2026Your heart is broken! How you respond to that betrayal will move you forward or keep you stuck.<\/p>\n

    Next:\u00a0Do Right or Be Right: The Challenge of Betratal<\/p>\n

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