{"id":6585,"date":"2014-09-26T07:55:46","date_gmt":"2014-09-26T11:55:46","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/doinglifetogether\/?p=6585"},"modified":"2014-09-26T07:59:42","modified_gmt":"2014-09-26T11:59:42","slug":"kardashian-catwalk-controversy-a-little-sibling-rivalry","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/doinglifetogether\/2014\/09\/kardashian-catwalk-controversy-a-little-sibling-rivalry.html","title":{"rendered":"Kardashian Catwalk Controversy: A Little Sibling Rivalry?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Think drama! NO, think mindless drama. Now who comes to mind?<\/p>\n

The Kardashians of course. If there is a way to keep their names in the news, they find it. And so it goes with the latest “controversy.”<\/p>\n

Apparently, 18- year- old Kendall Jenner banned sister Kim Kardashian from attending her fashion shows. And yes, this\u00a0made\u00a0headlines.<\/p>\n

Why?<\/p>\n

Maybe because younger sister is taking the spotlight away from older sister.\u00a0Kim is the one used to getting all the attention. Now that her sister has taken New York and Paris Fashion week by storm, little sis is making a few demands. First, she dropped her famous last name and simply goes by Kendall. This act of independence is supposed to make us think she is separating a little from her family. Actually it would be normal for Kendall to vie for a little independence at this age,\u00a0\u00a0but this could prove difficult\u00a0given the enmeshed family dynamics.<\/p>\n

Maybe because a little sibling rivalry is normal. When younger children are born, the older children feel the attention move from them to the new child. At different ages, they want different things. Kendall is emerging as a young adult. Her focus is different than Kim’s who is a mom and a thirty something. Conflict is \u00a0normal as they negotiate their adult relationship. The important thing is not to compare siblings to each other. Each is unique and trying to find her place in life. And each needs a little personal space. However, personal space for reality TV stars is not easy to come by.<\/p>\n

Maybe because we need mindless entertainment to take our minds off the real problems our country faces. Let’s face it, this family is a distractor from more important issues in our culture.<\/p>\n

Maybe because we can relate to a little sibling drama. Let’s\u00a0stick with this idea and look at\u00a0what really happens in most families when it comes to siblings.<\/p>\n

According to an article from Psychology Today<\/a>, about a third of adult \u00a0siblings say their relationships are rivalrous or distant. So when it comes to siblings then, the majority of them stick together, differences included.<\/p>\n

We know that siblings are impacted by their mother’s interactions with their other siblings. So mama Kris, plays a role! Her actions and inactions influence Kendall’s relationship, especially when it comes to\u00a0getting along with her\u00a0older sisters.\u00a0In this family, it appears the siblings are competing more with their mom than each other. And we know that sisters who are close come from families in which much emphasis is placed on close relationships. The Kardashians have made careers out of this closeness. The expectation seems to be,\u00a0we are family and will stick together\u00a0despite our conflicts. Family is what made us famous.<\/p>\n

Related to expectations, Judy Dunn, who studies siblings in the US and England, adds\u00a0that if siblings have the desire to get along, even when they \u00a0have different goals and interests, rivalry becomes\u00a0cooperation. In other words, if a sibling values the relationship and wants it to work, she can find ways to make it cooperative.<\/p>\n

And sister-in-laws or brother-in-laws can create tension among\u00a0sibling relationships. Hmm….Kanye could certainly\u00a0be a factor here.\u00a0Let’s just say he can be difficult.<\/p>\n

Most clinicians will tell you, siblings, in general get along and conflict certainly arises. Sure there are personality differences, more attention giving to one child over another at times, but in the end, getting along is the norm. So I wouldn’t make too much out of this latest headline of Kendall banning Kim. After all, the media loves to stir up controversy and the Kardashians love to be in the middle of it! It’s how they stay celebrities!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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