{"id":6308,"date":"2014-06-12T07:00:20","date_gmt":"2014-06-12T11:00:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/doinglifetogether\/?p=6308"},"modified":"2014-06-09T11:37:42","modified_gmt":"2014-06-09T15:37:42","slug":"want-to-be-a-great-dad-have-a-great-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/doinglifetogether\/2014\/06\/want-to-be-a-great-dad-have-a-great-marriage.html","title":{"rendered":"Want to be a Great Dad? Have a Great Marriage"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"ID-10034398\"<\/a>It’s Father’s Day this weekend and children all over the country will find ways to honor their dads. \u00a0Dad’s are important for so many reasons. They are more than a second adult in a home. They impact the psychological, academic and overall well-being of children.<\/p>\n

What may surprise you is how the marital relationship impacts fathering. Constant\u00a0<\/span>fighting and bickering between spouses have negative consequences on children.<\/p>\n

The QUALITY of the martial relationship matters. It influences how great a dad you will actually be to your children. In other words, you can’t be a great dad and have a terrible marriage.<\/p>\n

Marriage has an indirect influence on a father’s parenting. When a father has a good relationship with the mother of his children, \u00a0he is:<\/p>\n

1) More likely to spend time and be involved with his children.<\/p>\n

2) Have children who are psychologically and emotionally healthy.<\/p>\n

Furthermore, a mother who feels affirmed by the father of her children and is in a happy relationship is more likely to be a better mom. Dads who love and honor their wives, contribute to mom’s being better moms.<\/p>\n

Thus, the quality of the marital relationship affects the parenting behavior of both parents. Both are more responsive, affectionate and confident. And a happy marriage models respect and how to deal with conflict. This teaches young boys to respect women and not act in aggressive ways towards women. And girls with dads in a good marriage are less likely to engage in violent or unhealthy relationships.<\/p>\n

Finally, dad’s who are angry, stonewall or show contempt for their wives are more likely to have anxious, withdrawn or antisocial children.<\/p>\n

Want to be a great dad? Be a great husband first!<\/p>\n

HPPY FATHER’S DAY! AND LOVE ON YOUR WIVES TOO!<\/p>\n

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