{"id":6204,"date":"2014-05-06T07:00:29","date_gmt":"2014-05-06T11:00:29","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/doinglifetogether\/?p=6204"},"modified":"2014-05-05T21:03:51","modified_gmt":"2014-05-06T01:03:51","slug":"mom-taking-care-of-mom-a-little-self-care-needed","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/doinglifetogether\/2014\/05\/mom-taking-care-of-mom-a-little-self-care-needed.html","title":{"rendered":"Mom Taking Care of Mom: A Little Self-Care Needed!"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.freedigitalphotos.net\/images\/agree-terms.php?id=10054780\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-6205 alignleft\" alt=\"stressed mom\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/258\/2014\/05\/stressed-mom--300x290.jpg\" width=\"300\" height=\"290\" \/><\/a>It\u2019s 6 a.m. You begin your day with two cups of coffee, feed the kids, and grab a granola bar as you run out the door to meet the school bus. Then you make a mad rush to do errands. By 10 a.m., your blood sugar is dropping so you stop by 7-11 and grab a high caffeine drink and a couple of cookies. Then it is home to do laundry and clean up from the morning rush. You have a meeting at the school and the dog needs to be seen at the vet so you run by the fast food drive through, grab a burger and fries (you are really hungry now) and a Coke. The guy in the car in back of you cuts you off and you scream out your window\u2014Jerk! (Sorry God, that wasn&#8217;t nice!)<\/p>\n<p>Homework help is given and then the kids get ready for bed. At 10 p.m., you flop down on the couch exhausted and grab a bowl of ice cream to relax a minute. Your husband asks you a question and you snap at him. He wants time with you, but you are tired and just realized you need to throw in a load of laundry and pay a few bills. Finally, around 1 a.m., you crawl into bed and set the alarm for 6 a.m.<\/p>\n<p>What&#8217;s wrong with this picture?<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: small\">Mom needs a little self-care. If this rings familiar, time to make major changes:<br \/>\n<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: small\"><strong>Slow down.<\/strong>\u00a0If you are constantly on the run, something in the schedule has to change. Rushing equals mindless eating. Then the guilt sets in and you eat even more. Rushing also takes a toll on your physical body. You need a few moments of rest and down time.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: small\"><strong>Rethink all the activity in your household.<\/strong>\u00a0Can you cut something out and rethink the kid\u2019s schedules. They feel your stress and also need to play and relax.<br \/>\n<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: small\"><strong>Bring back the family meal<\/strong>.\u00a0Work it in to the schedule. The benefits are astounding- better nutrition, academic performance, and lower risk for delinquent behavior \u2013 a small price to pay for big results. Dust off the crock pot and download a few 30-minute meals.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: small\"><strong>Get rest.<\/strong>\u00a0To function properly, you need at least seven hours of sleep a night. Less than that equals weight gain and causes irritability.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: small\"><strong>Be a wife, not just a mom<\/strong>.\u00a0Moms can get so busy doing, they forget they are wives. If you end each day in a state of exhaustion with no time to check in with your spouse, re-evaluate the use of your time. Your husband needs your attention and you need his. Keep the marital bond strong in order to preserve your marriage.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: small\">You are important and need to function well in order to take care of others. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: small\">First, you have to take care of yourself. Make the minor changes and add a quiet time to spiritually refresh. Your family needs you!\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>It\u2019s 6 a.m. You begin your day with two cups of coffee, feed the kids, and grab a granola bar as you run out the door to meet the school bus. Then you make a mad rush to do errands. 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