{"id":6123,"date":"2014-04-15T07:00:26","date_gmt":"2014-04-15T11:00:26","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/doinglifetogether\/?p=6123"},"modified":"2014-04-15T18:15:13","modified_gmt":"2014-04-15T22:15:13","slug":"its-tax-day-but-how-is-your-emotional-bank-account-doing","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/doinglifetogether\/2014\/04\/its-tax-day-but-how-is-your-emotional-bank-account-doing.html","title":{"rendered":"It’s Tax Day But How Is Your Emotional Bank Account Doing?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"2<\/a>Yes, today is tax day and many of you will make that last minute run for the post office before midnight! Why? Because you don’t want to be penalized by the federal government. But what about your emotional bank account? \u00a0Do you need to make more deposits when it comes to your relationships?<\/p>\n

An emotional bank account has to do with how often you deposit positives into your relationships. Do you praise, show fondness and admiration to your partner, give complements, make gestures of affection, tell the person you love him\/her, use words of encouragement, pay attention to his or her needs, etc.?<\/p>\n

If you don’t make regular positive deposits, your emotional bank account can go into a negative balance. \u00a0When this happens, the negativity begins to tip the positive, causing you to start looking at your relationship in a negative way. In fact, we know from the research of John Gottman that couples who are doing well have a 5 to 1 positives to negatives ratio operating in their relationship. \u00a0Happy couples have 20 to 1 positives to negatives. Unhappy couples have .08 to 1 ratio of negates to positives.<\/p>\n

So on this special tax day, get to the post office on time, but tell your loved one something positive along the way. Make sure you are making regular positive deposits into your intimate relationships. These will be absolutely necessary when problems erupt. An overall positive feeling about a relationship makes it easier to deal with problems.<\/p>\n

You can’t stop the government from taking your tax dollars, but you can stop your relationship from being depleted. Make those emotional deposits every day and your emotional bank account will be full!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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