{"id":594,"date":"2011-10-04T08:00:57","date_gmt":"2011-10-04T12:00:57","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/doinglifetogether\/?p=594"},"modified":"2012-01-25T13:34:08","modified_gmt":"2012-01-25T18:34:08","slug":"this-doctor-disagrees-with-the-doctors-on-sexual-fantasies","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/doinglifetogether\/2011\/10\/this-doctor-disagrees-with-the-doctors-on-sexual-fantasies.html","title":{"rendered":"This Doctor Disagrees With The Doctors on Sexual Fantasies"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>I am at the Y exercising. What do I hear as I am flipping the channels? It was The Doctors<\/em> on their daily talk show and they made me crazy again!<\/p>\n

The Doctors<\/em> were talking about “F” words today. The first “F” word was “Fantasy” and the segment was about whether or not sexual fantasies are good for us. The consensus was “Yes”…as long as your partner doesn’t know about those fantasies. The general advice was go ahead and have sexual fantasies about other people while you are married to someone else. That will help your relationship, but keep those fantasies a secret.<\/p>\n

So let me understand, lust after someone else other than your spouse, keep that a secret and this will help your relationship?<\/p>\n

Just once, I would like to hear a Christian opinion as part of the discussion. Sexual fantasy is a form of cheating and we shouldn’t go there. Jesus said, “But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart” (Matthew 5:27-29). That’s what God says. But we never hear this perspective because it isn’t sexually progressive enough.<\/p>\n

Well this is one doctor who would have chimed in, stop the fantasies and concentrate on the person you are with at the moment. Keep the friendship alive, the relationship positive, find new things to do together to add a little spice and you will not have to fantasize a night with Angelina Jolie in order to enjoy your wife!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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