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\"angry1\"<\/a>We all get angry, right? But how we deal with others when we get angry makes a big difference. Here are 10 tips to express anger is way that helps your relationships, not hurts them.<\/p>\n

1)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/i>Press pause<\/span>. Don\u2019t respond immediately when you feel intense anger. Stop and don\u2019t speak. My dear brothers and sisters take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry\u2026 (James 1:19).<\/i><\/i><\/p>\n

2)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Stop trying to convert others to your point of view<\/span>. Listen and accept differences.<\/p>\n

3)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/i>If you can\u2019t calm down, don\u2019t respond until you can<\/span>. Stop the negative cycle by not engaging in the negative behavior. A quick-tempered person does foolish things,<\/i>\u00a0<\/i>and the one who devises evil schemes is hated. Proverbs 14:17<\/i><\/i><\/p>\n

4)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Stop talking about what made you angry<\/span>. When you repeat the story over and over, you give it energy.<\/p>\n

5)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Find the lesson in the anger<\/span>. Is there something that needs to be corrected, changed, or dealt with better? Look for the lesson. Tremble and do not sin; when you are on your beds,<\/i>\u00a0<\/i>search your hearts and be silent. Palm 4:4<\/i><\/p>\n

6)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Observe your feelings<\/span>. Acknowledge the feeling and then let it go. Practice calming techniques. Better a patient person than a warrior,<\/i>\u00a0<\/i>one with self-control than one who takes a city. Proverbs 16:32. <\/i><\/p>\n

7)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/i>Have fighting rules that keep anger from escalating<\/span>. A hot-tempered person must pay the penalty; rescue them, and you will have to do it again. Proverbs 19:19<\/i><\/i><\/p>\n

8)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/i>When anger escalates, regroup<\/span>. Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. Proverbs 29:11<\/i><\/i><\/p>\n

9)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Look at the big picture<\/span>. Is your anger worth the relationship? It is more important to be right then to be merciful? But now you must also rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips<\/i>. Colossians 3:8<\/i><\/p>\n

10) <\/i>Be around positive people who exercise good self-control<\/span> when it comes to expressing anger. Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person,\u2028do not associate with one easily angered<\/i>. Proverbs 22:24<\/i><\/i><\/p>\n

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